From frustrating job searches, to toxic leadership, from vaccine mandates to extreme nonprofit overwork, from coming out to a coworker to finding ways to actually enjoying downtime — the Autostraddle team addresses your questions about getting by in the workplace, being queer in your career, and making it through the day while surviving capitalism.

We do lose something when dedicated queer spaces like Into, Girlfriends and SheWired shutter or AfterEllen goes full TERF, but we also lose something when The Awl, The Hairpin and The Toast do. These were places where writers were free to experiment, to be weird, to make writer-first content that isn’t easily monetizable.

Starting December 13 and going through December 25, you can check back every day for a new Autostraddle Plus treat. From two new installments of S L I C K, to Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, a Holigay Cooking AMA and more — we’re celebrating the A+ Members who make this queer community possible.

Is it a “friend” coffee or a “date” coffee, unemployed and feeling unmoored, negotiating initiating intimacy in a relationship with two people on the asexual spectrum, you feel like your best friend is making questionable dating decisions, grooming your armpit hair, taking a break from therapy, you’ve never been in a long-term relationship, trying to exist outside of capitalism, possible pelvic floor concerns — and more!

i would also watch an incredible ryan murphy show about this with sarah paulson and jessica lange as the wronged lesbian penguin parents.

The pandemic has many of us feeling, in some ways accurately, that we’re helpless, or that there’s nothing we can do. The good news is, there is; there always has been. To that end, I’d like to ask you, a white person reading this, to make a public and material commitment to what you’ll do to end state violence and the endless targeting of Black people by the police apparatus.

Why does gay male sex turn you on if you’re a lesbian and is it okay? Plus, conflicting ideas about isolating & dating during quarantine, cheering up your partner over long distance, parents and mental health and Covid-19, SO MANY mixed signals from your ex wife who’s in another relationship and…should you fuck your boss?!?!?! Things are a mess out there, but at least we have each other and 26 questions from readers like you!

“the sex bench is like all the flatware in beauty and the beast collecting dust waiting for somebody to come along and use it to feel purpose / meaning again”

We’re here today to talk about dealing with your crush’s pets, and also dealing with your own pets in the context of your crush!

In Jewish philosophy, the “Tree of Life” is emblematic of the wisdom of the Torah: “its ways are ways of pleasantness, and all its paths are peace.”

“always happy for the opportunity to turn our community’s collective missteps into content”

Here’s how we handle TV that lets us down, the shows we think successfully turned it around, and our ultimate dealbreakers.

If Paige and Shane have already done the time then they might as well do the crime you know what I mean ladies?

It’s fun to delete stuff. Plus: feminist zine culture, a Lumberjanes quiz, the 2017 VIDA count results and more.

The annual avn porn awards are a wtfnsfw spooktacular, but jiz lee likes the feminist porn awards. Also; bisexual office affairs, interrupting sex to text, sex on drugs, even more ‘is oral sex actual sex’ conversations, lesbian erotica publishing,

I hope you’re good with your fingers.

“guys do you think i’ll ever have sex in a penthouse with floor to ceiling windows and a view
like while i’m still young enough to be bendy”

“Her dreams are just real nights at lesbian bars
And then she wakes up covered in a man
Wish I didn’t relate so much”

“i feel like one of the best parts of getting older is learning new and surprising things about yourself, like how hot older slytherin women are”

Topics include ratings for When We Rise, same-sex smooching on a Disney cartoon, Moonlight, LeFou being gay obviously, and also some important Nancy Kerrigan news.