An older lesbian needs advice for coping with dates expecting her to desire penetration, plus advice on the politics of dietary restrictions, finding love while allergic to cats, and the classic two bottoms: one relationship.

“I asked her if there’s a world in which we always live separately but still spend most nights together, and she didn’t say no but she also said she was having a hard time imagining it.”

Did you hear the one about the [homophobic politician] and their gay [daughter/sister/brother/friend]? So did we, and you know, it’s really not funny anymore.

“In recent years, an alarming number of LGBTQ-fronted shows have ended.”

I held these words close as I walked through my neighborhood in a town named after perhaps the most famous colonizer in the Americas.

“Well, if the ceiling collapses, at least it won’t fall on us because this section of ceiling is already missing.”

I was in California for a conference when I heard about the Club Q shooting.

“This is the most urgent I have ever felt”

I was having my first group sex experience AND my first queer experience in one night?!

Here at Autostraddle, we know that lesbian and queer stereotypes sometimes have some truth behind them.

Malika and Alice come so close to having the queer friendship moment we’ve been waiting for.

In light of current conditions for queer Nigerians — and global conditions facing queer people — a book like 2015’s Under the Udala Trees is ever-timely.

Give yourself a hand — it’s International Masturbation Month!

“In this world, denying gayness is not keeping your private life private. It is, essentially, accepting either 1) Straightness (e.g., John Travolta) or 2) An obvious and compromising closeted lifestyle (e.g., Queen Latifah). In Adam’s case, that’d be lying, and lying is bad. But he hasn’t lied. So yes, it is relevant.”

Every other week, I’ll run my metal detector over the literary internet, dig up whatever beeps, and present to you my findings.

New Kehlani dating rumors, queer farmers working to build community in rural spaces, and the Latinx roots of punk music. (Also not to be dramatic, but is this how American democracy ends??)

From frustrating job searches, to toxic leadership, from vaccine mandates to extreme nonprofit overwork, from coming out to a coworker to finding ways to actually enjoying downtime — the Autostraddle team addresses your questions about getting by in the workplace, being queer in your career, and making it through the day while surviving capitalism.

“It’s a real mark of our collective queer delusion that everyone tries to forget how weird it is when serial roof marauder Piper Perabo climbs on top of her car to screech about wankers over the standstill of London traffic.”

Starting December 13 and going through December 25, you can check back every day for a new Autostraddle Plus treat. From two new installments of S L I C K, to Merry Fistmas: A Virtual Vaginal Fisting Workshop, a Holigay Cooking AMA and more — we’re celebrating the A+ Members who make this queer community possible.

RBG’s death and ACB’s confirmation left a lot of LGBT folks reeling, wondering what Amy Coney Barrett’s confirmation means for marriage equality. Are folks right to be worried? Yes, admits Mary Bonauto, the Civil Rights Project Director at GLBTQ Legal Advocates & Defenders (GLAD) and the lead attorney in Obergefell v. Hodges.