I’m sorry, I have a soft spot for loud insecure queers.

Riese: I would text Riley and be like “you up?”
Carly: Are you still at the gay bar…? Because?
Riese: I would come back incensed with rage and ready to make a mistake.
Carly: Ready to ruin my relationship.
Riese: Yes. I would be full of the spirit of ruin and ready to share it.
Carly: Which is not Christmas spirit, but it is kind of related.

Plus updates on Younger, All American, Ackley Bridge, Top Chef and Charmed.

Sex therapy is one of those things that sounds simple on the surface, but is really much more widely encompassing that one might originally suspect.

Today, the voting commences for the CLASSIC sub-regions of the Canon vs. Fanon Contest. You have 48 hours to cast your ballot and then we’ll be back to unveil another region shortly thereafter.

“Foxy Brown quickly became my favorite film of the blaxploitation classica. Pam Grier — yes, that Pam Grier, Bette’s big sister (it’ll annoy me forever that that’s how generations of queer women remember Grier) — was just astounding in the titular role… badass and unrelentingly sexy. The other awesome thing about that movie? I think it was the first time I’d seen a lesbian bar on screen.”

In February, I found myself sitting in a folding chair in a country club just outside of Pittsburgh, directly across from Kristen Stewart and Mackenzie Davis.

Yule this year is meant to be quiet, relaxing, comforting, and joyful. With so many new traditions beginning, and a few old favorites getting incorporated into this next chapter of my life, I feel full of hope in spite of the challenges this year has brought. Sending love and warmth to you and yours.

Loneliness is an old bedfellow of mine; despair, my oldest friend. If I can come to embrace those parts of myself I’ve always tried to push away — perhaps, that is the only lifelong love I can count on.

She ran a progressive campaign for Queens DA that put New York’s establishment on notice, and now has NYC Council in sight. “It’s not about good people or bad people, it’s just about people. We need to divest from policing and incarceration and invest in the true sources of safety.”

Here’s what we loved this year, and what pained us to see.

At my Catholic all-girls middle school, I liked to tell people I was Buddhist. It was my feeble attempt at preteen rebellion. I enjoyed interjecting, “Oh yeah? Well, I don’t believe Jesus was real because I’m Buddhist!”

Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a partner who is living in a double closet.

sometime this year you are going to steal your first pack of cigarettes from *redacted*’s mom: please don’t ? you will like them far too much and also will feel bad forever for stealing

“‘Tank Girl’ prepared me for living in queer punk houses & having no running water. Lori Petty forever.”

“Do you feel like we’re drifting apart?” I asked.

I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.

Clea DuVall and Tegan and Sara unite to give the gays everything that they want! Also, the Pope said that thing he said. What happens if Roe v. Wade if overturned? And while we’re talking nightmares, here’s how to survive election night.

How could we talk about queer dating without talking about astrology and tarot?

How do you make adult friends? The A+ team approaches this question from so many different angles to offer up advice on making adult friends while sober, making adult friends in a new city, making friends when you’re in a long-term relationship, finding potential new friends using Lex, meeting cool people with Instagram, deepening friendships that started through fandom, and more! “…that’s the beauty of the A+ Advice Box — you get a sampling of all our brains and then you get to make your own choices!”