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A row of red BDSM devices, including a ball gag, a leather blindfold, and rope, hang on a red wall. They cast a shadow on the right.

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How Black Queer and Trans Folks Can Get Involved in the Kink Community

In the hands of Black queer and trans folks, kink can be deeply healing and transformative.

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Apr 10, 2023

A blank, unlined journal is open on a black sheet. A red flogger is on the left of the journal and a red ball gag is on the right of the journal.

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She/Her/Sir: Finding My Home in Kink as a Black, Queer, Masc of Center Dom

Kink can be a profound space of healing, which is something that Black people — and especially Black women — deeply deserve.

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Feb 21, 2023

Against a red background, there is a stack of white KN95 masks, a COVID vaccine card, a rapid covid test, red leather cuffs, a red leather blindfold, two black butt plugs, and a black ball gag.

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How I’m Navigating Play Parties as a Disabled, Immunocompromised Kinkster

I knew they taught about safety in BDSM culture, and I assumed that this ethic would carry through in their COVID safety. I was wrong.

Jade T. Perry

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Jan 18, 2023

Against a yellow background, black text reads, "D-Daddy." On the right, a white woman with short, black hair wears a low-cut, red blazer with shoulder pads and a pearl necklace. She sits in front of a window and curls a dumbbell.

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The Gay B C’s of Sex: D Is for Daddy

The queer community played a special role in shaping how the word is used today. Are you ready to learn more? Say, “Yes, Daddy.”

Ro White

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Nov 3, 2022

four abstractly illustrated figures engage in a celebratory kinky dance. from left to right we have someone with top surgery scars wearing assless chaps, connected bvia a pair of cuffs to a person who is blindfolded and wearing cut out underwear, who is dancing next to someone in a mask and what appears to abe a full body rope bind, and followed by a person in a fishnet, corset and ballgag waving a flogger above their head. The figures are featureless and hairless and purple and the kink elements are red

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How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa

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Sep 22, 2022

A black and white image shows the faces of three women who are lying on top of each with their arms wrapped around each other. One woman, who wears a bandana around her head and sunglasses, leans in to kiss a woman to the right. On the left, the third woman, who is wearing sunglasses and a denim vest, leans in towards the mouths of the kissing women.

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13 Photos of Dyke Culture Between 1988 and 2003, by Phyllis Christopher

Phyllis Christopher’s photos capture an underground dyke culture that was loud, ferocious, and teeming with sexuality.

Ro White

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Aug 15, 2022

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Needle Play Brings Me Back into My Body Over and Over Again

Editor’s Note: This essay includes descriptions of piercings with hypodermic needles and blood in a BDSM context and brief references to self-harm. Needles are an edge. They encompass many spheres…

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Jun 11, 2022

Against a white background, a yellow cake with pink and white frosting sits on a white plate. The top of the cake is fully smashed.

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We Sat On Cakes to Find Our Joy

After months of holding ourselves back in order to keep ourselves and others safe from COVID, we were chasing abundance.

Trish Fancher

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Jun 6, 2022

In the bottom right corner of the image, there is a black line drawing of two women with 1950s hairstyles whispering to each other against a pink background. In the upper left corner, there is a speech bubble. Inside the speech bubble, there is an image of black fabric restraints attached to long, black straps.

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Anonymous Sex Toy Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

No matter how much she begged, pleaded and yanked on the straps, she was securely held in place and entirely at my mercy.

Guest

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Apr 26, 2022

A red leather paddle with a heart-shaped cutout against a wood-paneled background

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Our Desire, Our Power: QTBIPOC BDSM and Consent

Without confronting the cycle of oppression, we reproduce trauma, even in spaces that try to focus on consent.

Noor نور

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Dec 7, 2021

cutouts of black & white prints of a pair of leather boots and a stylized snake on a black leather background

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Fetish

I don’t really have a lot left from childhood, and after a while, I became very into certain tangible objects. The idea that you could fetishize a material object instantly…

Sloane Holzer

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Jul 2, 2021

cutouts of black & white prints of collars and a stylized heart on a black leather background

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Sadomasochism & Mental Health: Boundaries

Kink is something that I can contextualize my life around, around eroticism generally, and that felt so at home in my brain. That I can have a container for a…