First Person Issues

Butch Slut

In the pool hall, my sweetheart and a close friend tease me one night: “unimpressive,” “pure luck,” “you aren’t that good.” They were trying to get my ire up so that an hour later when I told them to stare into each other’s eyes as I fucked my sweetheart’s body, I would mean it with a snarky competitive vengeance, I would mean it with power and control, I would be pushed to take what I want.

First Person

A Love Letter to Butch People (That Is Accidentally About My Dad)

Being able to be soft in this world is important for a lot of folks; but also, I think it’s a privilege. And when you exist in a world saying “women look like this” and you do not look like this (and maybe even aren’t a woman), it takes being hard in order to thrive. There is beauty in being hard that way. There is a reason we tell our lovers their haircuts make them look “sharp.”

Fashion/Style First Person

My Superhero Shirt and the Allure of the Unflattering

“Objectively, aesthetically, I find women’s clothes attractive. Just… on other women. But I’m intensely uncomfortable wearing them. There’s something about the way they’re made that make me feel like I’m on display. And that’s true, isn’t it? Women are always on display because they are always someone else’s property. Everyone else’s property.”

First Person

Getting Cruised In the Heights

“Who are these men noticing me? Who are these men giving me the long, soft stare, eyes holding mine like they got something for me, something they can’t talk about, something only eyes can pass along. Who are these men whispering ‘hi, papi’ to me? I don’t think I look more male today than I did yesterday.”

Fashion/Style

Dapper Brunch Style Served Six Different Ways

The term “brunch style” does not automatically imply a specific level of formality. My suggestions would depend on the occasion (Meet the parents brunch? Wedding brunch? Date brunch? Hungover with your friends brunch? Autostraddler meet-up brunch? Hip-hop party brunch?) and the venue (Five star restaurant? Pub? Trendy café?).