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The Stranger Helps You Be a Gay Person

Malaika’s Team Pick: “Let’s face it: this being a person thing is pretty challenging, and unfortunately being a gay person further complicates things.”

By Malaika| August 30, 2012 | 28 Comments
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Anna Anthropy: Queering Video Games One Pixel at a Time

“Anthropy proves to us that video games can tell our stories as queer and trans* women. They can vent our frustrations in ways other people can experience. They can help us to communicate the things we go through in an unprecedented, interactive way.”

By Whitney Pow| August 25, 2012 | 26 Comments
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On the Dan Savage v. Brian Brown Debate: Can We Please Just Admit That We’re Different?

“The debate between Savage and Brown, at its core, was really just a fight over whether or not gay people can be deemed appropriate or special enough in the eyes of people like Brown to be permitted in the institution of marriage.”

By Amy York Rubin| August 24, 2012 | 52 Comments
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“It Gets Better” Is Now A Special MTV Presentation

“It Gets Better” is now an hour-long MTV/Logo TV special with famous people and everything.

By Jess| February 16, 2012 | 6 Comments
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Gay Marriage Doesn’t Change Straight Marriage…Except When It Does

How Dan Savage and other queers introduced straight people to non-monogamy.

By Rose| August 9, 2011 | 83 Comments
Society + Culture

Stuff You’ve Been Hearing About Dan Savage, Addressed

Dan Savage has gotten himself into quite a bit of trouble with quite a lot of people on topics such as Michele Bachmann’s husband and monogamy.

By Laura| July 20, 2011 | 71 Comments
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It Gets Better: 23 Lesbians, 10 Animals, 2 Children, 1 Message (#itgetsbetter)

It Gets Better, we’ve got proof: it’s on video. Celesbians inside!

By the team| October 15, 2010 | 134 Comments
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Dan Savage Wants Baby Queers to Know: It Gets Better

Hi. Have you done something to take care of someone else today? Maybe you should, right now. It’s easy. You can do it on the internet. You love the internet. I love you.

By Rachel| September 23, 2010 | 30 Comments
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