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You’re Invited to Autostraddle’s Birthday Party Advice-A-Thon!

Y’all have kept Autostraddle going for 11 entire years! LET’S EAT CAKE.

By Laneia| March 5, 2020 | 1 Comment
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Autostraddle Weekly DO YOU GET IT (I’m Talking About Our Newsletter)

Wow wow wow a newsletter for your inbox?! WEIRD IDEA BUT OK!

By Laneia| March 1, 2018 | 20 Comments
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Also.Also.Also: We Noticed One, Single Lesbian Because You’re Damn Right We Did and Other Stories

There’s a Holtzmann comic in here, Snapchat Specs, your dreamless weed-induced sleep, upbeat Mary Berry news, Roxane Gay, and so much more!

By Laneia| September 26, 2016 | 18 Comments
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Yes, That *Is* A New Autostraddle Design You’re Seeing

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By cee| May 16, 2016 | 249 Comments
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Top 10 Reasons Autostraddle Social is Better Than Other Social Networking Sites

Affirming private messages. A peek into the vices and virtues of your favorite commenters. The lingering sense that you’re a part of something really special and full of love. THIS IS AUTOSTRADDLE SOCIAL AND I WANNA BE YOUR FRIEND ON IT.

By Carmen| July 14, 2015 | 295 Comments
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What We Comment About When We Comment About Commenting

The rise of social media and the triumph of trolls has led many popular websites to shut down comments or let them spiral into extinction. NOT US.

By Riese| July 9, 2015 | 357 Comments
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It’s Tell Us Everything Week on Autostraddle!

We love you, and we love what you have to say. That’s why during Tell Me Everything week we want you to leave as many comments as you can — FOR PRIZES!

By Carmen| July 8, 2015 | 436 Comments
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Welcome To The New Improved Autostraddle!

Something’s different, did you get a haircut? Did I get a haircut? I don’t know, I feel like somebody got a haircut.

By cee| December 1, 2013 | 306 Comments
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Autostraddle Makes Refinery29’s “24 Best Websites For Women”

Refinery29 wasn’t thrilled with Forbes’ list of the top 100 websites for women (and really, who was?) so they decided to compile a list of their own. We’re proud to say we made the cut!

By Vanessa| August 26, 2013 | 10 Comments
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The Big Autostraddle Rebuild & Redesign Update: The Future Is Bright

This post aims to answer pressing questions such as, “now that the fundraising campaign is over, how long ’til we get to see the new website?” and “when is my fundraising t-shirt gonna be here???”

By Riese| October 29, 2012 | 13 Comments
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Autostraddle Raises $116,645 In 45 Days, What A Wonderful World!

We just wanted to say a few things before taking your money and running off to a tropical island to do some offshore trading and margarita-drinking with the ladies.

By the team| September 9, 2012 | 61 Comments
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32 Hours Of Autostraddle Fundraising Remain, We Hit $100K, Let’s Talk About It!

Laneia, Alex, Laura, Rachel and Bren on what this means to them and lots of overall happiness about reaching $100,000!

By Riese| September 7, 2012 | 63 Comments
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FINAL FANTASY FUNDRAISER FLASH

You’ve got less than two days left to add $2,000 to Autostraddle’s fundraiser and we really think you can do it! We love you so much.

By Laneia| September 6, 2012 | 78 Comments
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$80K Celebration: Raffling Off Two September A-Camperships & Taking Straddle-Gif Requests

We made it to 80k! That means you can request gifs from Brianna’s brilliant straddle-gifs tumblr AND we’re raffling off two camperships for September for anyone looking for a last-minute vaycay!

By the team| August 23, 2012 | 37 Comments
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Happy Birthday Rachel!

In which we hope to give our Senior Editor Rachel the best birthday gift ever, with your help!

By Laneia| August 17, 2012 | 30 Comments
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Autostraddle’s Get Baked Sale!

It’s your last day to order homemade cookies and treats from our fundraiser! Snickerdoodles, butter cookies, oatmeal shenanigans, Oreo situations — they’re all here, and all made with love.

By Laneia| August 15, 2012 | 55 Comments
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It’s Alex’s Mindblowing “Call Your Girlfriend” Dance Video! Also, More Fundraising Updates!

It’s Alex Vega’s “Call Your Girlfriend” Dance Video, as promised, plus heaps of important fundraising campaign updates!

By the team| August 13, 2012 | 105 Comments
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Fundraising Update #2: What If We Raised $100,000? What Then?

Just a little extra motivation to participate in our fundraising campaign!

By Riese| August 3, 2012 | 166 Comments
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Fundraising Update #1: Autostraddle Raises 40K In 21 Hours, Still Has 44 Fun-Filled Days Ahead

BASE GOAL MET. Now let’s see what we can do with the next 44 days!

By the team| July 27, 2012 | 103 Comments
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Why Queer Kittens Need A Better Autostraddle

Who needs Autostraddle? YOU DO.

By Laneia| July 25, 2012 | 81 Comments
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We Need Help: Our Big Fundraiser To Build A Better Autostraddle

We’ve spent the last year trying quick fixes and cheap labor for our broken website and there’s no way around it: it’s time to turn this shed into an actual building — luckily, we just made a really kickass Indiegogo campaign for that!

By the team| July 25, 2012 | 377 Comments
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