This week, the Sun published a fascinating letter in their Dear Deidre advice column, in which a (presumably straight?) (presumably real???) married woman describes falling in love with another young mother at her child’s school and wonders if their tawdry extramarital affair is built to last.

If I could have willed a book into existence, that book would be Stray City — so I talked to Chelsey Johnson about her debut novel and what it’s like to render queer community so intimately for the public.

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.

The new trailer for The Real L Word is out and Riese recaps it for ya. You know what else is out? Anyone But Me episode 7 and YOUR MOM. Plus, Molly Ringwald talks about gay stuff, Chris Colfer talks about Glee, and Lilo is seeking a restraining order against her dad.

Also, Sarah Paulson stunned everyone at the Emmys and Evan Rachel Wood prepares to go to goddamned outer space.

Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and more life.

“At the end of the prologue, I had to put the book down, because I had broken out in ugly, heaving sobs on a Monday night in the dog days of summer, after a hot and heated and emotionally heavy July eclipse, drinking a glass of rose in my apartment in Harlem.”

Also, Lena Waithe gives you the eye and Samira Wiley will totally hold that for you.

Here are some of the most memorable movies in the canon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”

Every day we stray further from Darren.

Also: Tessa Thompson is your favorite cocker spaniel in the new Lady and the Tramp, Shonda Rhimes really wanted Callie back for Arizona’s last episode, Ruby Rose quit Twitter over Batwoman backlash, Sarah Paulson and Sandra Oh finally met and chatted about how brilliant they both are, and more!

Malinda Lo’s all-new short story about an inauguration protest that’s interrupted by an alien invasion is available exclusively on Autostraddle dot com!

“As soon as we met Tara and Tony, our lives morphed to make room for them. Instead of drinking Carol’s parents’ liquor on Friday nights, we went to their apartment in Hillcrest to smoke pot from a bong filled with Midori and play with Tara’s snake.”

It’s finally Pride month for southern states! Plus Cuba’s conversations about same-sex marriage, queer folks running for office, a queer Muslim’s journey with unlearning authority, House of Kens, and more! Happy Sunday!

Forgiveness may be an attribute of the strong, but we also have the memory of an elephant.

If ‘Cuddle Top’ is not already a thing, I will make it one.

“Life is hard enough, let me have this.”