This Month: Proper protocol for casual sex with strangers, combating internalized fatphobia, lots of trans feelings, and how to apologize when its 100% your fault. Plus, what to do when it’s time to divorce him and come out already!

“I had felt so isolated as a queer woman in the musical theatre industry and… to get to talk to one other person about that experience has meant so much to me… I want more people who feel isolated in this industry to not feel isolated.”

“There’s no male gaze in this movie, none whatsoever. Desiree Akhavan is a queer woman and her screenplay co-writer Cecilia Frugiuele is a queer woman too. It matters.”

This week, the Sun published a fascinating letter in their Dear Deidre advice column, in which a (presumably straight?) (presumably real???) married woman describes falling in love with another young mother at her child’s school and wonders if their tawdry extramarital affair is built to last.

“Sally? Sally, are you here? Are you selling those shirts?”

Also, Sarah Paulson stunned everyone at the Emmys and Evan Rachel Wood prepares to go to goddamned outer space.

They say you learn your first lessons about how to be a person from your family, and that applies to chosen family, too. Today we’re sharing something we learned from watching another Autostraddle staffer that’s made our life better and brighter.

Our Chief Sally Consultant is also here to weigh in on HBO’s new comedy.

“One time my coworker asked if I could dress any dykier and you know what? I don’t know. It’s pretty gay.”

Which of five wonderful rosés would be best for “listening to D-I-V-O-R-C-E by Tammy Wynette and feeling accomplished”? The answer to this question and so many more lie within this post.

I’m freaking serious, this is so worth it: we’ve got one full campership for a trans woman of color with full travel included, one campership for a trans woman without travel and four camperships for trans women of color with a $100 travel stipend.

Our TV critics smashed their heads together to deliver our picks for the years’ 25 best shows with queer, lesbian, bisexual and trans women characters as well as each of our individual top 15s. So much TV you’ve gotta see in here!

“All my favorite lesbian love stories start when the hats align.”

Queer, bisexual and lesbian trans women exist and thrive and belong here.

Perhaps he would have loved me enough. I’ll never know, and my eschatology doesn’t include a heaven from which re-embodied souls watch over our earthly lives. All I have is speculation about how he might have reacted to his daughter’s bisexuality, and to his daughter not being precisely a daughter at all.

“a line of topless queers at the nude beach, but from the back
they’re all different sizes and shapes and abilities and it gives the impression that the entire queer community gets along and loves each other”

Also, Lena Waithe gives you the eye and Samira Wiley will totally hold that for you.

Happy Sunday! The Republicans are STRESSED, Isabella Rotman is letting you take home your very own A-Camp flag print, and surprise! Women look amazing in a suit!

“I’M YELLING AT YOU BUT ONLY TO TELL YOU YOU’RE GREAT.”

Every day we stray further from Darren.