The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.

“Can we all just take a moment to appreciate the phrase ‘menstrual confetti?'”

In 2014, after learning how to care for a person on the edge between life and death, I went on the bike ride that would, ultimately, return me to myself.

The new trailer for The Real L Word is out and Riese recaps it for ya. You know what else is out? Anyone But Me episode 7 and YOUR MOM. Plus, Molly Ringwald talks about gay stuff, Chris Colfer talks about Glee, and Lilo is seeking a restraining order against her dad.

The incredibly true adventure of one woman just trying to find a fcking menstrual cup that would work with her vagina. (Spoiler: she found one!)

Also, Sarah Paulson stunned everyone at the Emmys and Evan Rachel Wood prepares to go to goddamned outer space.

Come for the memes, stay for the advice so honest you might start crying while eating an enormous frozen Costco pie-sized peanut butter cup.

Our first post from the 12k responses to the Lesbian Stereotypes Survey digs into our propensity for cat ownership, our failure to appreciate how great dogs are, and the definitive answer to the eternal question “which pet is most likely to summon ghosts to your home?”

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

That’s what friendships with queer and trans Christians have taught me: it is blessed indeed to want more, more of everything, more love and more gender and more faith and more life.

Campers thinking about Dana Fairbanks at A-Camp 2018

“At the end of the prologue, I had to put the book down, because I had broken out in ugly, heaving sobs on a Monday night in the dog days of summer, after a hot and heated and emotionally heavy July eclipse, drinking a glass of rose in my apartment in Harlem.”

Also, Lena Waithe gives you the eye and Samira Wiley will totally hold that for you.

A-Camp Spring 2018

Happy A-Campers at A-Camp 2018

Kim Milan teaching Yoga with her baby at A-Camp 2018

Fan service and character development and sex sex sex, oh my!

Here are some of the most memorable movies in the canon of “films that have significant lesbian sex in them.”

Every day we stray further from Darren.