Feature image of @caitlin.hayley and @athayapaige via rodeoh.
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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
![@nikia_deshawn via rodeoh](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/nikia_deshawn.jpg?resize=424%2C640)
@nikia_deshawn via rodeoh
+ Squirting has a weird recent history of shame because scientists aren’t good at paying attention to women’s physical responses. What is it? Where does it (and the way people think about it) come from? At Fusion, Charlotte Shane has an awesome comprehensive look at the history of squirting:
“For a generation weaned on internet porn, inundated by sex advice, and adept at online search engines, “squirting” entered the mainstream years ago. But part of what makes it so visible are the petty controversies surrounding it. The public conversation is preoccupied with determining whether or not it’s “real,” meaning whether or not the resulting fluid is pee, and if the G spot (often used as an outdated term for the female prostate, the organ that yields ejaculate) even exists. Some disagreements are legitimate, stemming from lack of adequate research and disputes about methodology, but much is driven by sexist ideology instead of sincere curiosity. Consequently, plenty of ejaculating cis women remain confused and ashamed about their bodies’ responses, even holding back on orgasm altogether because they’re embarrassed by the outcome.”
+ The ultimate crowdsourced map of long-distance relationships from over 600 respondents is wild. One relationship has lasted over 44 years, while lots of others also span decades; work was the most common reason for being apart, though visas (especially pesky US ones) were also often listed; long distance can be under 50 miles or over 10,000; and more.
+ At the Rumpus, Jera Brown writes about the shared explorations of kink and literary essays, noting:
“I’ve become kinkier and more devoted to non-monogamy in both my spiritual life and my romantic pursuits as I explore them both in real life and on the page. But I’m wary of attempting to put together another algorithm for the exact relationship between what I write and how I live. That’s a trap. It’s mysterious and deep, and I’d like to be content with exploring it without resolving it.”
And:
“Kink simultaneously feels like practice and the real thing. During a scene, I’m truly pursuing intimacy. When a partner chokes me, I’m risking something real in both my body and my heart. But I’m also practicing various skills and strategies and roles: consent, technique, receiving and dissecting pain. It’s an environment of play, but serious play.”
![fluvialacerda shot by Rafael Clemente](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/fluvialacerda.jpg?resize=498%2C640)
fluvialacerda shot by Rafael Clemente
+ At the Lingerie Addict, Alexis has some lingerie tips and suggestions for trans women, including types and cuts of bras that look cute regardless of your breast size, bottoms that offer coverage and stretchy fabric for compression, and more.
+ “Sex is just a way to talk about other things.” At Dazed, Larissa Pham, Arabelle Sicardi, Amy Rose Spiegel and Ashley Reese discuss sex, writing about sex, identity and more.
![tumblr_o901di512p1qefrloo1_1280](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/tumblr_o901di512p1qefrloo1_1280.jpg?resize=900%2C600)
@miagferg via rodeoh
+ Today, June 19, the Pleasure Chest (a queer-friendly feminist sex shop and Autostraddle affiliate) will be donating 10% of its sales from its five locations and online store on to the Orlando GLBT Center. If you’re in the market, here are some sex toy suggestions.
+ At Adult, Eileen Myles talks about her mornings in bed.
![via black and curvy](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/tumblr_o4z842iuU81s87ff6o1_500.jpg?resize=500%2C626)
via black and curvy
+ Who are sex toys marketed to?
+ How do lesbians lose their virginity? “‘A lot of queer folks feel they lost their virginity the first time they had an orgasm with a partner,’ says Blank. ‘It wasn’t about what acts or even what genders were involved. It’s as valid a definition as any other.'”
![Harmonica Feather Prism via Bluestockings Boutique via the lingerie addict](https://www.autostraddle.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/bluestockings.jpg?resize=426%2C640)
Harmonica Feather Prism via Bluestockings Boutique via the lingerie addict
Very nice pick of pictures this week, wowowow :D
I just woke up and went into the kitchen…..and there on the counter is……@miagferg!!!!!!!!!!……….
she is attractive.
Nikia is attractive also.
LOVE that Jera Brown piece!!
The developmental frequency of a functional prostate gland in females is very high. In humans, about 90% of women develop mature prostatic tissue that is active in secretory processes (Zaviačič et al., 2000b). In rodent females, prostatic morphogenesis seems to be influenced by the intrauterine position of the animals during gestation (Clark et al., 1991; Timms et al., 1999). Thus, in the female rat fetus, the development of prostatic buds is more frequent when gestation occurs with twin female fetuses (67%) but rarely occurs between two males (29%). This occurs because animals bearing two female or two male fetuses have natural differences in testosterone (T) and estrogen (E) levels. Females bearing two female fetuses have higher levels of E, which is the hormone responsible for modulating the effects of androgens on the developing prostate and induces larger growth of prostatic buds during glandular morphogenesis (Timms et al., 1999).
http://www.cbra.org.br/pages/publicacoes/animalreproduction/issues/download/v3n1/AR102%20Santos%20pag3-18.pdf
Which resonates – given how often transphobes mention post bottom surgery Trans women “still having prostates”.
Loved the lingerie article. I would love to see more on not just folks early in transition and those not having or seeking lower surgery. What looks best generally given certain body types?
I’d especially like to see more on sexuality after surgery. There’s very little out there about sexuality or erotic stories women after lower surgery.
That was fascinating, Kathy. Thanks for sharing!
You’re too kind.
There’s a lot that could be explored in essays and stories. One learning to orgasm again. What works, what toys and positions work best, experiencing penetration. Does desire or attraction change. The awkwardness of being a virgin again. Another one to add to the story above on virginity. And, is a bit embarassing.to some of us.
OMG I had to learn to orgasm all over again just from HRT, it tooks me months actually I wonder what it’ll be like doing that all over again if I manage to get GRS
oh my, these pics! *blushhhh*
Yass lingerie for all and sunscreen!
If you’re going topless (net shirt counts as topless for dis) this Pride month or at any point during the summer put right proper sunscreen for your skin type on your nips for the love of all that is divine and awesome don’t forget the sunscreen.
FOR YOUR NIPPLES.
SUNSCREEN
Ideally all over, but don’t forget YOUR NIPPLES.
NIPPLES.
SUNSCREEN.
http://www.skincancer.org/prevention/are-you-at-risk/fitzpatrick-skin-quiz
http://www.autostraddle.com/sun-drunk-12-spf-products-that-wont-give-your-skin-a-hangover-337474/
I know very unsexy, but not as unsexy nipples healing from sunburn.
Thanks for the pictures. I was in a bad mood but this helped