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If My Clit Were Lost in the Woods, the Aer Would Still Find It

Over the last few years, sex toy companies have asked us to review their toys in exchange for, you know, their toys. Today we’re reviewing the Aer, a suction sex toy by Dame Products.

As an avid masturbator who used to buy my plastic, battery-operated bullet vibes at Spencer’s, I love trying new and improved sex toys — and suction (or “air pressure”) is one of my favorite advances in sex toy technology. If you’re looking for a clit-focused toy that mimics the sensations of oral sex, this category of clit-suckers deserves your attention.

The Aer is a rechargeable, silicone suction toy by Dame, “your women-powered source for products for pleasure, designed to nourish sexual wellness and deepen connections.” I’ve tried a number of other air pressure toys — including the Satisfyer Pro 2, the We-Vibe Melt and the lamentably-named Womanizer Premium. Here’s how the Aer compares to similar sex toys on the market:


1. The whole toy is made of medical grade silicone.

Unlike some other suction toys, which typically have a silicone head and a plastic handle, the Aer is all silicone, all over. This makes the body of the toy easier to clean, since aren’t any grooves in the handle where lube, body fluids and hair can get stuck.

2. It’s lightweight.

If you like intense clit stimulation but have trouble maneuvering a heavy wand, the Aer might be the perfect pleasure tool for you. For me, the handle was easy to grip. I was also able to use the Aer hands-free by sliding it into a tight pair of boxer briefs.

3. It’s waterproof (sort of).

The Aer has a magnetic charger, so you don’t have to worry about destroying a charging port if you happen to squirt like Old Faithful. That said, it’s probably not a good idea to get lots of liquid inside the mouth of the toy, so don’t bring this one into the bathtub.

4. It has a flexible mouth.

According to Dame’s website, the Aer’s mouth can stretch between 0.5″ x 0.8″, so the toy can accommodate clits of multiple sizes. To test the Aer’s flexibility, I inserted a tube a chapstick into the toy’s mouth. It fit, but it was a tight squeeze, so keep this in mind if you have a girthier clit.

5. The suction doesn’t get too intense.

This is a pro for me — I have a hyper-sensitive clit and prefer gentle clitoral stimulation — but it might be a con for you if your clit craves a true, air pressure pounding.
The Aer — a periwinkle sex toy with a long handle, a curved end and a small, oval-shaped opening, is against a white background.


1. The mouth of the toy is hard to clean.

While the silicone body of this toy allows for easy clean-up, the mouth is another story. Most other suction sex toys I’ve tried have removable mouth pieces, which makes them easy to wash and dry. The Aer is all one piece, so washing the toy without getting water inside it is a challenge.

2. It doesn’t have many settings.

The Aer has five different pulsation patterns and five different intensities. That’s plenty of variety for me, but in comparison to other suction toys on the market, the Aer falls a bit short.

3. It’s loud!

In my experience, this is true for most suction toys. I don’t mind the volume since I live alone, but if you’re worried about disturbing other household members, you might want to opt for a quiet vibrator instead.

Overall, I liked the Aer, and for me, its pros outweigh its cons. I love sensations this toy provides, and I’ll probably continue using it. Check out Dame online to see the other toys this company has to offer.

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    • Up or In?

      Full Disclosure: I began experimenting w/ “air pressure” about 20 years ago! A local resale store (rural Pennsylvania of all places) had returned breast pump, and I went “Hmmm”! It was a fascinating experience (this thing had variable suction, but I bet it went a WAY higher level than this toy), but ultimately, I just could not create a satisfying, um, “chamber” for my Little Friend.

      I always thought there had to be some kind of market for “air pressure” (we just can’t say “suction”, can we? Too graphic!). Sigh, another potential patent I let get away. Poverty remaineth.

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