It can be tough out there for queers planning a wedding, especially those who haven’t attended m/any. Personally, when it comes to weddings I have no damn clue about so many things. I’m still not entirely clear on what a rehearsal dinner is and what gets rehearsed there and whether it’s a must-have, and that’s just off the top of my head. What I do know, however, is that some condescending dickhead in a super fancy, supposedly bespoke suit shop looked me up and down in slow-mo and opined that men’s suits don’t fit women’s bodies. I mean, fuck that guy. But as someone who’s neither used to wearing dresses nor suits and who has insecure feelings about exploring my menswear potential, that experience just made me shy further away from the idea of wearing traditional men’s wedding attire.
So that’s why I’ve fallen hopeless in love with H&H Weddings, a website that “is dedicated to providing lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender couples with high-end resources to plan and create a one-of-a-kind event.”
The site, founded by its New York based editor Kate Schaefer, documents the cutest damn weddings of LGBT couples that you’ll ever see and links you directly to the vendors that can help make lovely things happen. It’s super encouraging and affirming and inspiring in ways that I’ve not experienced when reading non-LGBT leaning wedding websites. A couple of clicks in and you start feeling more confident in the fact that actually it’s totally fine to wear a suit and hold a bouquet or walk down the aisle together or wear mismatched attire etc, because pages and pages of cute smiling stylish queers have proved it.