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PHOTOESSAY: Transgender Day of Remembrance in West Hollywood

For Transgender Day of Remembrance, I went to the City of West Hollywood’s event and talked to some of the community and those elected to serve about what TDoR means to them, what they’re doing to fight for the living, and what we can do every day.

By Molly| November 21, 2017 | 5 Comments
Gender

Trans Day of Remembrance Roundtable: What Chosen Family Means To Us

“When I think about Trans Day of Remembrance and how I’ve survived to see another one, I know that it’s because of my family.”

By Mey| November 20, 2017 | 15 Comments
Gender

Miss Major Stars in “The Personal Things,” a Powerful and Inspiring Animated Short for Trans Day of Remembrance

Miss Major has always been a badass, and in this three minute long animated video, she’s no different. With all the spirit in the world in her voice, she explains how we can each use our own personal acts to make political change.

By Mey| November 20, 2016 | 5 Comments
Gender

On Trans Day of Remembrance We Look Back on the Worst Year Yet and Prepare for a Terrifying Future

I don’t know how to be hopeful right now, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to stop writing or working or fighting, and I know everyone at Autostraddle stands firmly with me.

By Mey| November 20, 2016 | 32 Comments
Gender

Make a Trans Woman Smile on TDoR By Buying Her a Pizza Online

Trans women and dmab trans people, want a free pizza from people who support you?

By Mey| November 18, 2016 | 88 Comments
First Person Gender

On The 6: Confronting the Mortality of Girls Like Me

“Trauma wasn’t meant to happen at 9 a.m. on that August morning. Not when I was running on time, and somehow missed the long line for the day’s first cup of coffee. Nothing could have warned me that the meticulous construction of my person would be unraveled while my peers watched from their own cocoons of solitude.”

By Devan Diaz| November 20, 2015 | 21 Comments
Society + Culture

Transgender Day of Remembrance: Critique is Resistance; Resistance is Revolution

“It’s all fine that we become aware of our lives but we need more than for you to finally see that we are walking this Earth. We need you to hear us.”

By L'lerrét Jazelle Ailith| November 20, 2014 | 14 Comments
Sex + Relationships

So You Can Fuck Us; What’s Next? Going Beyond Sex With Trans Women

The recent cultural trend of supporting trans women has made us highly prized assets; somehow you can prove your radicalness by being the example of someone who has worked through transmisogyny enough to view us as worthy of sex and love. But what kind of love views us as disposable?

By Luna| November 19, 2014 | 90 Comments
Society + Culture

Remembering Us When We’re Gone, Ignoring Us While We’re Here: Trans Women Deserve More

As we honor the memory of those girls who have been murdered, ask how you’re helping the living.

By Morgan Collado| November 18, 2014 | 19 Comments
Gender

A Thank You Letter From One Trans Woman To The Others in My Life

Dear trans sisters and mothers and abuelas and aunties and daughters and nieces and cousins,
Thank you for everything.

By Mey| November 14, 2014 | 21 Comments
News + Politics Politics + Activism

No Excuses: California Bans Gay and Trans Panic Defenses for Anti-LGBT Violence

Those who commit violence against members of the LGBT community will no longer be able to hide behind “gay panic” and “trans panic,” at least in California.

By Mari Brighe| September 30, 2014 | 2 Comments
Politics + Activism

“It Was Personal”: Why I Don’t Take Part in the Trans Day of Remembrance

“There are a thousand ways to die from being trans. But they’re only included if they can be made as sensationalist as possible. Never mind that all these things kill you just the same.”

By Maryam| November 27, 2013 | 21 Comments
News + Politics

The UN Includes “Gender Identity” in Resolution Condemning Discrimination-Based Killings

The Third Committee of the United Nations General Assembly (UNGA) made great strides in terms of LGBT rights when it voted to keep sexual orientation and include gender identity in a resolution condemning executions for reasons of discrimination.

By Malaika| November 23, 2012 | 10 Comments
Politics + Activism

Transgender Day of Remembrance: Ten Things You Can Do

“Through the vigil, we express love and respect for our people in the face of national indifference and hatred.”

By annika| November 20, 2012 | 56 Comments
Gender Politics + Activism

OPEN THREAD: Transgender Day of Remembrance

“Today is a reminder that we all must take responsibility for combating transphobia.”

By annika| November 20, 2011 | 34 Comments
Gender Society + Culture

International Transgender Day of Remembrance: We Will Win the Coming Revolutions

Yesterday was the Transgender Day of Remembrance. So today we remember, but also look forward. Also: Queer As Folk/Glee, Harry Potter!, Anne Hathaway, Pretty Little Liars, queer youth, and zombies!

By Rachel| November 21, 2010 | 18 Comments
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