Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

We have 26 whole questions on all things gender! From parenting to transition to clothing to inclusion and exclusion in queer spaces, and more!

Plus updates on Legacies and All American!

“She raises both hands to the orchestra and she smiles into the audience. She nearly breaks her face in two because she knows, she really knows, that she did it. She’s the star.”

What finally swung it for me was at the end of a recent episode when, out of nowhere, Dolly Parton appeared.

Also in our weekly LGBTQ+ TV round-up, updates on The Chi, All American, iCarly, Motherland: Fort Salem, and The Republic of Sarah!

As annoying as it is, probably, to hear it, you really have to lead with love. It’s not our responsibility to love people who hate us or wish us ill, but if those people are your friends or family, it is yours. If you genuinely care about your family and want them to be and do better, let that ground your conversation.

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Advice on studying with ADHD, envying they/them pronouns, finding the best outfits to match glamorous heels, masturbation, and more!

In part two of their intimate interview, Autostraddle Managing Editor Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya asks her girlfriend Kristen Arnett to define being a top and what she remembers about their first night together at a hotel bar.

“Through frank conversations with cross country mates and cheeky hints in coming-of-age films, I learned that masturbation is something people do to their vaginas with fingers, shower heads and (though I often doubted it) hairbrush handles. I intrinsically knew that what happened when I pressed my thighs together and held my breath was masturbation, too, but as my Encyclopedia of Wank expanded with no reflection of my own methods, it became clear that I was missing a fundamental element of jerking off.”

From the crucial necessity of giving Black trans women a platform to speak to the legacy of the fight for marriage equality to the urgency of addressing FOSTA/SESTA, six takeaways from last night’s Presidential Town Hall.

My grandparents and mother were crowded around my grandfather’s laptop; they had lit candles on a cake and sang happy birthday. I was about to make excuses to go back to studying when my grandmother mentioned the referendum. “You know, we’ll see your sister in a few weeks. She’s coming back for the vote.”

It was a banner year for queer horror! Plus, fantasy, historical fiction, memoir, nonfiction, YA, middle grade, poetry picks — and so much more!

Thomas: I remember hearing that there was a trans character named Max, and that he gave birth and that possibly he was inspired by my actions.
Riese: A hundred percent, he was inspired by you.
Carly: A thousand percent.

Heather Hogan noticed that I had taken up permanent residence in the comments of “Boobs on Your Tube” every Friday, basically writing recaps of my own (I felt lost, Autostraddle was my port in the storm). Heather asked if I had ever considered writing about television as a career. She said, “We can pay you. Not as much as we’d like to, but we’ll find the money. Is that something you’d be into?”

I wrote back, “That is something that I would VERY MUCH be into! In fact, I hope it’s not too unprofessional to say that I would love it with all of my heart.”

“It’s a real mark of our collective queer delusion that everyone tries to forget how weird it is when serial roof marauder Piper Perabo climbs on top of her car to screech about wankers over the standstill of London traffic.”

“Stories about huge families full of love, whether nuclear or chosen or just-for-school, were the comfort food of my childhood, and I’m trying to find something similar for my queer adulthood. Is there such a thing?”

“I want to read stories about dykes not acting right. I want to read about people being messy. So I want to write about that too.”

John: Could you imagine you and Dylan just got done cunnaling-ing together, you’re in bed, the California sun is basking on you. And then you turn to Dylan and you’re like, “We have to get up so we can go to Max’s Willy Wonka baby shower.” That’s the thing you interrupt with.