25% of the 12.3k people who took our Lesbian Stereotypes survey have been in the presence of a ghost, but only 18% of all Americans have been similarly haunted. We sure are good at ghosting!

Perhaps he would have loved me enough. I’ll never know, and my eschatology doesn’t include a heaven from which re-embodied souls watch over our earthly lives. All I have is speculation about how he might have reacted to his daughter’s bisexuality, and to his daughter not being precisely a daughter at all.

It’s a scary time to be a minority in this country, but the 2018 Midterms offer a little bit of light in the darkness. According to the Victory Fund, this is the first election in the history of the U.S. where LGBTQ people are running for office in all 50 states. They join the record number of women running for office.

Also: God Friended Me is heckin’ gay, HTGAWM celebrates Spirit Day with purple and more hints of an Annalise/Tegan hook-up, Bre-Z is so good on All American, and just a little misandry on The Purge.

Stories include The Bi Life reality dating show, the final season of Orange is the New Black, new lesbians on God Friended Me, Practical Magic, Lena Waithe’s new show about sneaker culture, Kristen Stewart in an outfit, Riverdale’s flashback episode, Jen Richards in Tales of the City, “Her Body and Other Parties” getting a show at FX, Transparent: The Musical, Melissa McCarthy playing lez in “Can You Ever Forgive Me?” and so much more!

I bring to you cruising tips and casual sex advice built off the years of skanky queer life experience that have solidified me as one of the leading minds in the highly un-scientific field of “Lezzy Slut-ology.”

The new Netflix reboot of Shirley Jackson’s classic has made a lot of changes; one thing that’s stayed, though, is kickass horror lesbian Theo — now with a whole backstory of complicated family trauma!

Ah, yes. Cheryl Blossom is back. Riverdale is back. Let the beautiful chaos begin.

Here’s to the lesbian, bisexual, non-binary, queer, trans and free-ass-motherfucker celebrities who opened the closet door a little wider when they walked out of it.

Plus: How to Get Away With Murder does a gay thing, 9-1-1 does a good thing and doesn’t kill its gay; and updates on Mayans M.C., The Purge, Young and the Restless, Grey’s Anatomy, and Station 19!

Enjoy these eight books, mostly fiction, about queer disabled women characters!

Finders keepers…

Just some gal pals who righteously and gleefully killed their predators, who ruined powerful men’s lives and careers.

This week, the Sun published a fascinating letter in their Dear Deidre advice column, in which a (presumably straight?) (presumably real???) married woman describes falling in love with another young mother at her child’s school and wonders if their tawdry extramarital affair is built to last.

If I could have willed a book into existence, that book would be Stray City — so I talked to Chelsey Johnson about her debut novel and what it’s like to render queer community so intimately for the public.

The queer community is not quite as obsessed with astrology as you may have thought!

The first question people asked me when I got engaged was what I was going to wear to the wedding. My impulse reaction was to blurt out, “how the fuck should I know?”

I found a different self slowly, learned to exist as if with many different goggles on at once. Always speaking from my mother’s kitchen in the Silicon Valley and, at the same time, my grandmother’s crowded living room in Punjab. In these years, I would feel the sharpness of many kinds of difference, marginalization. But when I looked down at myself for signs of why I felt so other, all I would find was the color of my hands.

“Can we all just take a moment to appreciate the phrase ‘menstrual confetti?'”

In 2014, after learning how to care for a person on the edge between life and death, I went on the bike ride that would, ultimately, return me to myself.