NSFW Sunday Wants To Leave Marks

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Sex educator Betty Dodson tells you everything you need to know to get started knowing everything there is to know about your orgasms:

“While no two orgasms from self-stimulation are precisely the same, most women use some form of direct or indirect clitoral stimulation with or without penetration. The body responds with movement, no movement, along with varied breathing patterns from holding the breath to panting. Other women remain utterly silent while others make a variety of sounds. The mind can be paying attention to what the body is feeling, focused on sexual thoughts, or conjuring up a sex fantasy. Just as long as you’re not planning a dinner menu or running the laundry list.”

I Love Your Work, a new documentary, explores 10 days on a lesbian porn set. At Slate, Amanda Hess interviewed creator Jonathan Harris about porn consumption on the internet and the project’s potential to change the way people think about porn:

“When I see porn now, I see real people performing. I think about their lives, what they had for breakfast, what their apartment might look like, where they get their groceries. The power of pornographic fantasies is diminished for me now, because I understand the role of makeup and lighting and camera angles to convey a certain image that usually has very little to do with reality. And I think this is ultimately a really humanizing thing to realize. It makes me feel better about my own body, and about the bodies of other people in my life. I can still appreciate the fantasies, but they have less control over me now.”

by photographer Zanele Muholi

by photographer Zanele Muholi

In Out, Jiz Lee talks about porn and gender:

“People often ask me, “What made you decide you wanted to do porn?” and I tell them the truth: I want to share my sexual expression with others. I like it, it feels liberating, and I know that it helps others feel free too. I want to show more representations of people like me. I use words like hegemonic, homonormative, and marginalized. These are words I learned as I put myself through college, but I knew the meanings before I earned my degree. I share stories about people who have written to me, thanking me for putting my sexuality out there, for helping them become proud and stronger in their own battles. All of this is true and it’s a part of why I did it. But what I don’t say is: I did it for love.”

Solopoly wrote about vulnerability and why it turns out it’s not the worst:

“So much of the culture of monogamy is tied up with the myths of ‘always,’ ‘everything’ and ‘forever.’ Personally, I’ve never bought that crap. If deep love and commitment that lasts for decades happens, it happens — but it’s not my goal. And I don’t ever want anyone to promise to love me until death do us part — they might as well promise to stop the earth on its axis, or turn me into a magical rainbow-pelted unicorn. Yeah, right.

All I truly desire from any intimate connection is for us to be good to and for each other in whatever way feels right for us, for as long as it feels right, while being true to ourselves and fair to others. That could be a few weeks or a lifetime. But then, a lifetime could be just a few weeks, or a few minutes. Like Janis Joplin said, get it while you can.”

In a takedown of recent Thought Catalog click bait in which a dude argues that ladies should shave, Madeline Davies explains why she’s not going to any more:

“Basically, the whole thing makes me want to throw away my razor, put aside my current grooming practices and grow the biggest clown bush that the world has ever seen. I’m talking a bush so big that people get lost in it. It will be beautiful — tourists from around the globe will come to drive their cars through it like they do with trees in the Redwood Forest.”

Women don’t actually lose interest in sex with age, you might be able to think yourself off, pre-sports sex is fine, and other sex myths debunked.

Smarter people are generally kinkier people.

Sex activist Annie Sprinkle talked to the Rumpus about her career in sex and her career in art:

“Being a whore was great preparation for being an artist. Beth Stephens, my partner and collaborator, and I just did a live art piece in a Brooklyn gallery—Grace Exhibition Space. Our work is exploring the earth as lover, instead of earth as mother. So we built a bed frame and poured fifty-five big bags of fresh dirt into it. We took off our clothes and got into the bed of dirt. Then we invited our audience to take off their clothes and join us. On one hand, it’s very different than been a prostitute. But then again it’s not. We were paid to get in bed with total strangers, naked. In a sense we are turning art patrons into johns and jills. It’s fun to play in these realms. I think that in some ways, we are all whores, johns and jills.”


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Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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11 Comments

    • I don’t mean this in an offensive way but I don’t get “the hetero end” of bisexuality?

      I thought bisexuals like males and females?
      Would heterosexual with sometimes has girl romances not be more correct?

      Listen I’m just curious to know really. It’s just because i know many girls who say they are bisexuals but never seem to end up with girls or be “really” into girls.
      Like do you think that if you were ever to marry a girl that since you are more on the hetero side you would not be completely happy?

      • Okay, I’ll bite.

        “I thought bisexuals like males and females?
        Would heterosexual with sometimes has girl romances not be more correct?”

        Bisexual doesn’t necessarily mean 50/50 split of attraction. It means you’re attracted sexually to men, women and others. So yes, there is a heterosexual end, where one could be mainly attracted to men and still want to bang an occasional woman or vice versa. “Heterosexual but sometimes has girl romances” doesn’t make a lot of sense, because if you sometimes have girl romances you are by definition not a heterosexual woman.

        “Listen I’m just curious to know really. It’s just because i know many girls who say they are bisexuals but never seem to end up with girls or be “really” into girls.”

        Don’t judge someone’s self-identification by your assessment of their sexual behavior so far. Maybe this person is shy and looks very femme, and therefore gets approached by men much more often. Perhaps they are harbouring shame still over their homosexual leanings, despite being out of the closet. Maybe they never seem to be “really” into girls in the same way men are “really” into girls because they don’t want to obectify women or make them uncomfortable. Maybe you’re really young and most of your friends have only had one or two serious relationships. There are more straight men than queer women to choose from, so from a numbers perspective you would expect to see lots of young bisexual women dating men, particularly at a young age when many people aren’t yet out. Maybe *gasp* THEY DON’T TELL YOU EVERYTHING ABOUT THEIR SEX LIFE.

        It’s really not any of your business anyway. The moral of this story is stop identity policing and beleive your friends when they come out of the closet, because frankly questioning their personal sexual decisions is just rude.

  1. Blargh. I understand that original shaving article (not the response) was clickbait, but I’m not sure why he thinks that writing an article like that is going to achieve his objective of convincing more women to shave. It probably had the net effect of convincing more women NOT to shave. Also, I don’t understand why his (original author’s) “but porn does it!” argument doesn’t apply in almost equal measure to guys. All around a very pointless and poorly-argued article.
    I think the response article author has the right idea when she says, “I don’t like broccoli rabe, but that doesn’t mean that I get to go around to restaurants and demand that kitchens stop serving it. I simply avoid ordering it. (On the rare occasion when it manages to sneak in, I move it aside, plow on and avoid ordering the dish in the future. You should try a similar tactic with vaginas!)” (but I would note as a minor point that she never says she WILL stop shaving, she says his article makes her WANT to.)

    • Er, my first paragraph is unclear. I meant to wonder why he’s targeting his message specifically to women rather than people in general, if “overwhelming partner preference and the pr0ns say so” is his reasoning. (And yes, I know the real answer is because it’s clickbait, but it isn’t very well-hidden.)

  2. I love this one, but I wish this site didn’t use Suicide Girls, it has such a long history of treating its models and photographers like such utter crap, down to trying to bankrupt photographers if they work elsewhere and contractually own the voices and tattoos of the models so they can’t post their own photos for profit. I would be happy if I never ever saw that name again. There are so many *decent* alt/fetish softcore sources on the web.

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