NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Knows Your Safe Word


Feature image of @dcannnon via rodeoh.

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Josephina Chhin and Lydia Ezeakor by Tamara Lichtenstein. (Visit her print store.)

Josephina Chhin and Lydia Ezeakor by Tamara Lichtenstein. (Visit her print store.)

+ The way the west defines obscenity is largely influenced by the 1857 Obscene Publications Act, “a state-sponsored mechanism of obscenity enforcement that regulated anything with the slightest whiff of scandal,” leaving nothing safe. The way it came about is revealing for both then and now:

“Struggles over obscenity are not simply localized battles over the production and consumption of sexualized images or language in private and public. They reveal the ways in which religious ideas and social movements, erotic marketplaces, and the very meaning of obscenity, shifted on both sides of the Atlantic and reshaped the role of the state in governing the erotic activities of its citizenry.”

+ Tips for sex with non-binary people (including yourself) include unlearning binary sex scripts, recognizing dysphoria, and focusing on the reality of the bodies present.

+ “As a woman producing VR porn, [Ela] Darling is something of a unicorn.”

+ The most common safe words in the United States include “pineapple,” “banana,” “apple,” and “Oklahoma.” (“Red” is the most common.)

+ Sometimes sexuality is fluid and sometimes it’s not.

terra juna by Colin Peck photography via liquor in the front

terra juna by Colin Peck photography via liquor in the front

+ Sometimes slow sex is okay I guess.

+ There are bluetooth tampons now.

+ How to win at online dating messages.

@grassmonkeyz + @hunnydewdrop via rodeoh

@grassmonkeyz + @hunnydewdrop via rodeoh

+ Lots of people feel sad after sex sometimes:

“Conventional wisdom tells us that sex feels good, and sadness does not. Experience tells us that, sometimes, the two experiences collide.

Of course, we can rationalize our way around that in a number of ways. Maybe what gets us down is the realization that, like all things in life, sex is fleeting. Maybe it’s knowing that after losing yourself in another body, after spending time in a space where time doesn’t matter, you will inevitably fall back inside your own head, where time and other ugly things are very much alive. Maybe it’s that tragic juxtaposition between sex and separation that does us in.”

 CrashPad Episode 206: Cinnamon Maxxine & Golden Curlz


CrashPad Episode 206: Cinnamon Maxxine & Golden Curlz

+ Hidden benefits of long distance relationships: “I feel like being apart has made us have more sex, because when we finally see each other it’s been so pent up. When we first see each other, we usually have sex about five days a week; in the summer, when we have more time together, it usually tapers to three or four times a week.”

via rodeoh

via rodeoh

+ Megumi Igarashi, the Japanese artist behind the vagina kayak you know and love, was recently fined over an art project that aims to destigmatize the vulva by distributing plans that would allow anyone to print a 3D replica of hers. In an interview with Bitch, Igarashi notes:

“I didn’t really have any intention other than to call out in public how strange it was that we can’t say ‘pussy’ out loud. It struck me as strange, and it still strikes me as strange. It wasn’t that I wanted to make news, but of course, since I’ve been arrested, it’s been making news. My motivation for this remains the same—why can’t we say ‘pussy’ out loud?”

+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: your favorite ways to have lesbian sex include clitoral stimulation, fingering, and oral.


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Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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13 Comments

  1. It’s my Emotional Week, my Let It All Out While The Hormones Mean You Still Can week, and the title of that website you linked on nb sex

    “the body is not an apology”

    = me, casually weeping over my (lunch?) breakfast bagel

  2. Just had to quote this from the “3 Steps Toward Good Sex Beyond the Binary” article:

    “My gender identity is not necessarily directly correlated with what I like in bed, and my sexual experiences do not need to be informed by the gender binary.”

    Amen!

  3. Once upon a time, I started an OKCupid conversation in the middle. I just started as if it wasn’t the first time ever contacting her, as if we’d been talking elsewhere and I just was just picking up where we’d left off. It didn’t entirely make sense (mostly because there was no previous context) but it was weird and she found it endearingly so and this is how I ended up with the magnificent masterpiece of a girlfriend (sorry, GAL PAL) I’ve had for the past 3 1/2 years.

  4. my first thought with the braid pic was “isn’t the point of having long hair is to braid it into one thick braid with your girlfriend/sex person” I’ve never had the opportunity to do that and I sometimes stare at long-haired girls dating each other being like IS THAT WHAT YOU DO WITH EACH OTHER which makes me possibly the creepiest.

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