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+ The success of a relationship is due in part to the number of siblings you have, according to a study presented to the American Sociological Association. The study found that the more siblings you have, the less likely you are to get divorced (until a point):

“Co-author Doug Downey specified, “One argument might be that it isn’t siblings that matter, but some other difference between large families and small families … It could have been that small families are more likely to have a single parent, or have some other issue that may hurt children in their future marriage relationship.” But that turned out not to be the case. According to the press briefing, controlled factors include “education, socioeconomic status, family structure, race, age at marriage, whether the respondents had children, gender role attitudes, and religious affiliation, among others” — none of which seem to explain the influence of siblings on a successful marriage.

It’s more likely that siblings affect marriage by teaching spouses better sharing, communication, and compromise skills. There is a cap to the usefulness of siblings, however. Each additional sibling diminishes the likelihood of divorce by approximately 2% — until you reach seven siblings (eight kids per family, total), at which point there ceases to be a correlation between divorce and sibling number.”

+ A new photography project documents the perfectly ordinary lives of erotica writers and why they started writing:

“Jacqueline Applebee set about writing erotica in the hopes of depicting heroines she could relate to.

‘I write because I never see people like myself in any kind of romantic or erotic book,’ she says, explaining: ‘I’m black, bisexual, a working-class fat woman with a disability.’

Jacqueline has indeed managed to touch readers through her stories, explaining that one disabled woman told her she ‘cried with relief’ when she read about a character who was just like her.”

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+ The Lingerie Lesbian shared her favorite picks for full busts and core-sized/smaller busts.

+ Supporting local sex-positive adult shops leads to supporting safer toy companies, getting accurate information, getting what you want and more.

+ A new adult website will focus on donating its profits to charity.

+ Former sex worker behind Belle de Jour/current research scientist Brooke Magnanti is being sued by her ex-boyfriend, who is claiming that she wasn’t actually a sex worker.

+ The Sabotage Times lists the 14 best books of erotic photography.

+ Love is increasingly for the wealthy as no one else can afford the time and money it takes, according to a new study.

+ Breaking news: hook up culture is made up. According to a study to be presented to the American Sociological Association, there was no change in how often people have sex or with how many people between 1988–96 and 2002–10 – everyone just talks about it more now:

“The most marked change has been in the narrative surrounding the hook-up. Mr. Monto points out that “hookup culture” appeared in “only a handful” of scholarly articles from 2000 to 2006; between 2007 and 2013, however, hookup culture reared its mythically promiscuous head on 84 separate occasions.

In short, college students today are having sex with the same amount of people, but they’re doing it less frequently and a vocal few are squawking about it more. We like to think that some sort of revolution is happening, but it simply is not.”

+ At the Hairpin, Lindsay King-Miller answers questions about being straight but liking boobs, why it’s dumb to seep with a girl and then sleep with her twin, labels and coming out when you’re not fully sure about your sexuality:

“This is one of the ways I think the mainstream gay movement’s insistence on the “born this way” narrative does a lot of us a disservice: Straight people now assume that all queer folks have same-sex attractions from approximately the time we take our first steps, and that, since sexual orientation is immutable and unchanging, any hesitation in determining who you want to bone is evidence that you’re actually just jonesing for attention and should not be taken seriously. This is insulting nonsense: your attractions are valid even if they showed up last Thursday and will be gone in a month, but people get really attached to the idea that longevity makes an identity real.”

+ In an interview with the Awl, porn star Stoya discussed her work, keeping her personal life private and feminism:

“My career in porn is in no way a feminist act. That’s my job. I like my job. But I’m not doing anything to contribute to the furtherment of the feminist cause by showing up and being made up and styled to look like a very conventionally attractive woman and then having sex on camera. There’s nothing feminist about that. But I’d also argue that pornography is entertainment, and therefore it’s no more anti-feminist for me to go and do my job—and do the high heels and the fake-eyelashes and makeup and all that stuff and have heterosexual sex with men, that’s redundant—but it’s no more anti-feminist than being a female actress showing up to a red carpet event wearing a dress. Women like to wear dresses. It’s okay.”


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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

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12 Comments

  1. Lindsay King-Miller is THE BEST. I love her “Ask a Queer Chick” column so much (that is actually how I first found AS). I especially appreciate the things she has to say about sexual fluidity/non-monosexuality – her advice is always spot on and she has definitely made me feel less confused and more okay about being a weirdo :)

    I really relate to this particular AAQC though. It’s like I could have written a couple of those questions! I was totally the confused teenage straight girl who just really liked boobs for some reason. And now I am the late-blooming queer girl who is always really freaked out about coming out to people because she’s not sure what to come out as…

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