NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday is 50 Shades of Ridiculous

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+ The Lingerie Lesbian really loves lingerie. Here’s why:

“As a gay woman, I am aware that my version of femininity can be deliberate and transgressive. I’m already outside of the mainstream, so in some ways the pressure to follow the ‘rules’ of gender expression are lessened – including the assumption that women ought to be feminine. So then why do I choose to be and why use lingerie to that end?

The answer is complicated – Sometimes I have my ‘femme doubts’ – I wonder whether I’m doing what I want or I’m caving to the pressure of society. I feel like so often femininity is tied up is ‘how you should look to attract a man’ or ‘how to have a pleasing appearance so that society will think you look ‘right” and sometimes I struggle and question my own intentionality. Am I just being femme because it’s a ‘safe’ choice?

That’s where lingerie comes in. Now, I don’t think lingerie should entirely be in the ‘femme’ domain – there is plenty that someone who feels more androgenous or even masculine might embrace. But when I look at my lingerie and my choices, I see the frills and the pinks and the lace and the scalloping that is so very femme and is so very me. And then I know the lingerie marketing bullshit about just wearing lingerie to please your man is just plain wrong and even laughable. When I see my beautiful, precious lingerie collection I know that it can’t just be for ‘men’ or ‘society,’ because this is something they will never see – it’s for me. (And sometimes my girlfriend).”

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+ The Black Venus Project, by photographer Maxim Vakhovskiy, is a series of incredible portraits that are “a celebration of the black female represented by women who are amongst the Venuses of the world.You need to see this.

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+ Twitter makes porn stars seem sexier by making them accessible:

“Twitter allows men and women in porn to promote themselves, but also to remind audiences that they are not just sexual objects, insatiable fuck machines, but humans, with hobbies and interests and quirks. Stormy Danielshas posted pictures of her daughter on Twitter. Kayden Kross tweets about David Foster Wallace, Don DeLillo, and her horses. Dana DeArmond (a porn actress who also occasionally does stand-up comedy) posts explicit nude photos of herself in addition to pictures of her shoes, her outfits, and her cat. ‘People like to laugh and they like to know that people who are sex workers can also be smart and funny,’ she tells CNN.”

Relatedly, The Crash Pad Series, Jiz Lee, April Flores, Vagina Jenkins, and Dylan Ryan, for starters, are all on Twitter.

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+ If you are planning to write a lesbian Fifty Shades of Grey, you should read about how to write erotica first. You should read it anyway. It is hilarious:

“Do not make use of double entendres. Since your work is intended to be overtly erotic, you should only concern yourself with single entendres. If you happen to come across a double entrendre in one of your drafts, a handy trick is to divide it down the middle and move the second half to any section of your manuscript in which entendres may be lacking.”

And:

“Readers who seek out erotica tend to be motivated more out of curiosity and boredom than actual lust. So the goal is not to be explicit in your depictions of sex. Rather, you should endeavor to make the sexuality in your fiction mysterious and surprising. Since even the most peculiar sex acts have already been well-documented at this point, the best way to keep readers guessing is to introduce them to new body parts. The simple addition of a prehensile lobe protruding from the nape of your heroine’s neck or an extra sinus cavity concealed coquettishly in her armpit is all you need to provide your readers with a much needed thrill.”

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+ Unfortunately, the erotica writing guide comes too late to save classic novels from Clandestine Classics’ rewrites. This should be unsurprising: more people are buying their porn as e-books than as physical books, according to a recent survey. Adult fiction e-books out-sold hardcovers and currently make up 30 per cent of the total e-book market. Hiding what you’re reading in public: much easier when no one can see the cover.

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+ For a more nuanced, though not entirely unproblematic, discussion of BDSM, check out Bitch‘s “Thinking Kink” column. Topics include safe words, whether vanilla sex is boring, and lesbian BDSM and the male gaze.

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+ Sex educator Jamye Waxman shares some oral sex tips in an interview with Xtra:

“Two amazing sexologists did research back in the 80s or 90s about the most sensitive areas of the clitoris and for most women it was ten and two o’clock. So it’s not directly on the glands of the clitoris. […] Going not directly for the clitoris to start is a great way to preform cunnilingus.”

 

+ The We Vibe II, which hits your clit and g-spot at the same time with room for penetration from your partner, is lots of fun and is on sale at Babeland until the end of July.

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+ Trans porn star and sex educator James Darling recently launched FTMfucker.com, a porn site that includes at least one trans man in every scene. In his Feminist Porn Awards acceptance speech, Darling said:

“Trans men being seen as erotic beings is a relatively new phenomenon and I’m proud to be a part. […] Trans men have a special chance to define our own language and terms, how we are spoken about and marketed in porn, because it is a blossoming, exciting new niche in the adult industry. This launch marks an exciting new era.”

+ You may have missed the porn party on Thursday, but it’s never too late to watch Doin’ It Ourselves, a 2010 flick featuring “a hot collection of trans women and their partners of all genders engaging in sex the way they want to be represented.”

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18 Comments

  1. Those Clandestine Classics give me all the conflicting feelings.

    The literary nerd in me is weeping softly in the corner, but the queerbo is weirdly pleased we’ve reached a point where people are actually writing gay sex into novels, rather than, you know, editing it out and throwing the authors in jail.

    Then the part of me that’s been getting off on explicit fanfic since she was thirteen is just laughing at the fact people are paying for a lazier version of something they could get for free with a five minute session with Google (and rolling her eyes at the inevitable lack of femslash on offer, of course).

  2. 50 shades of grey… more like 50 shades of gay (this book exists).

    I estimate a good 20-30% of the kindle readers on my train are probably reading erotica during the daily commute. Or… cummute. Giggity giggity.

  3. I may go lingerie shopping with my partner sometimes, but anything I buy is for my enjoyment first and foremost. That isn’t to say that I don’t think about how they’ll react when they see me in it, but I buy lingerie because it makes me happy to have it.

  4. I don’t think The Lady Ms. Vagina Jenkins has ever done porn (she’s a burlesquer) but she’s kick-ass anyway. Also recommended to follow on twitter: @kittystryker and @msmaggiemayhem

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