NSFW PHOTOESSAY: CRUEL TO BE KIND

Content warning: images that contain nudity, consensual bondage, knife play, needle play, blood play, and degradation. 

CRUEL TO BE KIND
Candy Feit
This project explores the way in which much of our sex, gender, sexuality and sexual pleasure is based in our emotional pleasure. Or displeasure, as the case may be. It has led me to discover how we use our bodies to process cruelty and pain, and how from that pain we can learn to push our limits into some kind of acceptance, or even transcendence.

These photos investigate the connection between pleasure and pain, and how kink can blur the line between where the body ends and the brain begins. It’s all in the moment between the smack, the punch, the pinprick and the slash, and the emotional release that comes when the pain is acknowledged.

We are inundated daily with images of horrific cruelty. And for some, these photos are tough to look at. They’re not erotic or salacious but they are meant to be beautiful. We see a moment ...

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Candy Feit is a documentary photographer and artist who focuses on creating deep narratives about people and their relationships. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Globe and Mail, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, National Geographic Magazine, U.S. News and World Report, Time Magazine and dozens of other publications. After spending the last decade living and working in West Africa and South Asia, Feit is now based in New York.

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