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mila.vanillaa via rodeoh by samxraw

Queer women are better at breakups:

“‘There’s a historical, and I think marginalization component, that I think can impact queer women’s breakups as well,’ Vera said. ‘Historically, as a marginalized community, your community is only so big. So if you can’t stay friends with your exes, or if you have to divide up your whole social circle every time you have a breakup, you don’t have anybody.’ Those living on a coast or a major city might have an easier time finding a new circle of queer friends after a breakup, but for those living in rural areas, or who aren’t ‘out,’ a fresh start isn’t always easy. Even if a relationship doesn’t work out, shared histories can often make staying friends somewhat of a survival mechanism for individuals and their communities.”

jipjens via rodeoh by samxraw

There are two approaches to relationships: thinking of them as destiny, where you assume instant flawless compatibility and your love magically fixes any problems that arise, and thinking of them in terms of growth, where you work together to build skills and solve problems, writes at the Cut:

“’[P]eople with a growth mindset about their relationships don’t see conflict as a sign of incompatibility; instead, they see it as an area of, well, growth. ‘Going through difficulties in a relationship isn’t a signal that, oh my goodness, we’re incompatible people,’ [psychologist Eli Finkel] told Vedantam. ‘It’s an opportunity to learn, to understand each other better and strengthen the relationship through the resolution of the conflict.'”

diormusicnow via rodeoh by by mariyastanglphoto

Getting tickled is the worst.

At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Evan Clamors wrote about gender euphoria.

A new episode of O.school covers masturbation myths.

You still have time to tell your friend they’re dating someone shitty.
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Consent apps are not great.

Gonorrhea is becoming increasingly difficult to treat.

Chloe Has Chlamydia by Jackie Prince is a fun approach to safer sex ed that’s now available for preorder.

mirahdelanyxo via rodeoh by samxraw

“[W]hat’s been puzzling to me is watching how much we align happiness with what we can see,” writes Rainesford Stauffer at the Cut on not putting relationships on social media:

“‘People tend to share all aspects of their relationship today at all stages, and I’m not sure that’s always the best way forward or the healthiest way,’ [Rachel Sussman, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who founded Sussman Counseling in New York] explained. ‘There is something special about keeping details private between two partners.’ Sussman referenced a client who shared every detail of her engagement — and then fallout when it was called off.

‘People always post what looks amazing in their life. I know people who actually design their life around what they will post,’ Sussman continued. ‘I think it’s dangerous for us to think that just because someone isn’t posting, they’re not happy. It could actually be just the opposite.'”


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Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

Carolyn has written 884 articles for us.

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