NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Over Performative Horniness

Feature image of Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday! It’s great if you’re horny and great if you’re not.

Byron DuBois and Daizy Blaze

Byron DuBois and Daizy Blaze in Crash Pad Series episode 296

Bored with unsatisfying Zoom dates? Between May 3 and 6, why not video call these eels instead.

It’s okay if your sleep is messed up right now.

Whether because you don’t have anything to do besides fixate or because you know they have fewer in-person social engagements, ghosting can hurt more in isolation:

“[P]sychologist Sanam Hafeez explains that as hurtful as ghosting was before quarantine, it can sting more in isolation. ‘When there’s nowhere to go and little around the house to stay entertained, it can be damaging to anyone’s self-esteem and cause them to question themselves,’ she says.

Hafeez and many other experts agree, however, that ghosting is more of a reflection of the person disappearing than the one left hanging. It’s also rarely personal, which is more true than ever in quarantine. ‘Everyday feels like Groundhog Day for some people,’ Hafeez continues. ‘Eventually, you’re going to run out of responses to ‘what are you up to?’ without meaning to. You don’t text or reply as often as you normally would purely because you’ve run out of things to talk about.'”

Adina and Saffron

Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303

It’s okay if you’re not horny right now.

Strap-on sex is for people of all genders and genitals.

Condom sales are down. Sex toy sales are up. Don’t have a sex toy and thinking about perverting household objects instead? Make sure there are no sharp edges, put a condom over it, and see our butt plug guide for safety tips before putting anything up your butt (please consider only putting proper butt plugs up your butt).

If you’re on birth control for pregnancy and are not using your pills, here’s what you need to know about saving them for later.

Here’s how to deal with the effects of long-term stress.

Sex tech is still leaving lesbians out of the conversation. Here are a few ways technology can help you feel a partner’s touch if you’re quarantined apart.

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305

Portland strip club Lucky Devil Lounge has reopened by pivoting its kitchen to food delivery and a drive-through pickup featuring dancers and distancing and sanitation protocols that include temperature checks:

“The spectacle makes for a bright spot amid the coronavirus closures that have brought the entertainment and food-service industries to their knees. But the situation is still precarious. Dancers are scraping by; several are not personally eligible for or have not received government stimulus. ‘This quarantine has taught me what I already learned as a sex worker and as a parent: to not rely on the government for protection or resources,’ wrote Elle Stanger, a Lucky Devil dancer and writer, in an essay for HuffPost. The employees at Lucky Devil are now delivering food like other essential workers being referred to as ‘heroes,’ though they have even less protection than many of their corporate counterparts.”

Cinnamon Maxxine and Golden Curlz

Cinnamon Maxxine and Golden Curlz in Crash Pad Series episode 206

Shooting porn over Zoom “may be borne of necessity as a technical production workaround, but in practice, it feels more like a shift of narrative relevancy,” writes Tracy Clark-Flory at Jezebel:

“Before call-time, contracts were signed, makeup was finished (the performers did it themselves), and setup was completed. Each woman arranged her own camera, lights, props, and backdrop, according to the parameters of an instructional document sent out by Mills. The shoot began with a group interview with Mills playing host—and then it was time for the orgy. Before the scene, Mills cracked the clapperboard while sitting in a captain-style desk chair in front of her home office setup, which she has nicknamed her ‘spaceship.’

Clothes were promptly peeled off amid sprinkles of laughter. ‘Seeing everyone on camera and not being able to—look at Kendra’s nipples,’ said Lopez, sounding tortured. Fox mimed grasping motions with both hands. ‘I just want to grab through the screen at you guys,’ she said. Scott, shaking her bubblegum-pink head of hair, said, ‘I wish I could taste all of you right now. Fuck.’ Fox gushed, ‘Look at those pussies. I wanna taste them.’ It’s a dynamic familiar to anyone who has ever had any form of virtual sex. Whether it’s cyber, phone, or cam, long-distance sex is often filled with expressions of longing to transcend the distance. Not being able to. I just want to. Wish I could. In many ways, that is the sex. It is the eager, tormented expression of what is wanted until you can imagine yourself there. I wish fleetingly becomes I am.”

Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

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3 Comments

  1. I was ghosted recently after I told someone something I thought I could trust them with. So that article is interesting and hits a little close to home. Right now texting, emailing, etc. are what everyone needs for connection and it hurts when others can’t or won’t be there for you.

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