Yesterday evening, I was minding my own business when I was told that hottie hersbands, Niecy Nash & Jessica Betts, were going to be taking a seat for an the infamous Red Table Talk with Willow Smith, her mama Jada Pinkett Smith, and HER mama Adrienne Banfield-Norris A.K.A Gam.
Red Table Talk brings all kinds of folks together to sit down, kick it, and basically — share their truth.
I watched it this morning while I was taking down my hair, and from the moment Niecy shimmied into the room with her perfect smile and champagne-colored ruched dress, I was excited.
The Real Shit
Everything poured out while the babes were at the table. One of the lures of Red Table is that it’s three different generations of Black women coming together to share their views on pretty much, well, everything. Gam opened up and said that she’d thought about being with women in the past (from Gam: “Oh wow, a threesome might be really enjoyable”) and no one blinked twice at Jada saying she could see Willow ending up with a woman. For me, It’s wild to see and hear older Black women, talk so cavalier about basically, doing that gay shit.
The church came up (Niecy Nash is a former First Lady), being put in boxes, confusing folks with the multiple identities that you can hold, BEING A BLACK WOMAN LIVING YOUR TRUTH — it all was talked about in the just under 30-minute video.
I connected truly to Jessica when she talked about coming up in the COGIC church, she’s the granddaughter of someone who was a rather famous person in the Chicago community. Her grandmother, Pastor Jessie Pearl, was the first Black female preacher on the Southside of Chicago. Coming out for her was a big deal, it came with some condemnation and things typical of church folks like “You need to get a husband”.
I can understand that, my father is a big deal pastor and I couldn’t have been more scared about coming out to him. Growing up in the Black church and knowing you’re a queer kid is a very lived experience to understand. Luckily, both mine and Jessica’s ended on a higher note, she introduced Niecy to her grandma and in the end her grandmother said “Well alright, love each other and y’all take care of each other.”
I CRIED IN MY BATHROOM WITH MY COMB IN MY MOUTH!!
THE SWEET SHIT
Ok so when I was watching Niecy Nash on The Red Table Talk, one thing was clear — the way these two love each, the amount of sweetness, the amount of care, comes jumping off the screen.
Niecy makes it clear that both of them were free and clear of their previous relationships long before they got together. The tabloids and news saying anything other than that were incorrect, also wrong — saying that she came out. “Come out of where? Because I wasn’t in anywhere, I wasn’t living a sexually repressed life.”
I’d love to point out right here and now, that we, the crew at Autostraddle, have never said that. What we do here is praise Niecy and Jessica for being two hotties who are in love and are constantly thankful that they let us see it.
They tell stories of hot tub proposals, movie watching with neck touching, going to eat seafood and SOFT CHEEK KISSES IN THE KITCHEN!!
The impersonations that Niecy does of Jessica will also take.you.oooouuutttttt.
Oh and here’s the story of their first date, you’ll want to stay until the end. I HAD TO CLOSE THE COMPUTER AND SCREAM!!!!
Honestly, I’m just gonna admit it. I always thought the term “Love is Love” was lame, yeah I know it’s true or whatever but I just thought it was whack. But when I was watching this, hearing both of them tell their stories and look into each others fine ass eyes and smile — it’s the first thing that came to mind.
One thing that stood out is Niecy said no one in the community ever gave her a welcome packet. Well, Niecy, consider Autostraddle.com your welcome packet and me, Shelli Nicole, your tour guide in the world of all things LGBTQ+ Niecy :)
Can’t wait to watch you kill it hosting the GLAAD Awards next week (airing April 8th on YouTube and Hulu) and in the meantime….. Who wants to be my Jessica and ask me to go lay down?