Masturbation Month and Beyond: A Staff Survey Experience

We know that queer women masturbate more than straight women. A lot more. Masturbation can be a way to enjoy your body or a way to reclaim it. It can be a way to fall asleep or a way to kill time or a way to release tension. It can look like a thing part of your body is doing while the rest does something else or it can look like an orgy of one. And it can be a source of pleasure, joy, and a really great time.

But, anecdotally, while talking about the details of partnered sex is not especially uncommon these days, talking about masturbation frankly and openly still is. Today in asking my colleagues invasive personal questions we’re talking about how we masturbate — how we started, what we do, where we do it and more.

For a data-focused discussion of how queer women masturbate, check out the findings from Autostraddle’s Ultimate Lesbian Sex Survey open to queer women and people who identify with that experience.

For a feelings- and experiences-focused tiny peek at how the queer...

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1121 articles for us.