Into the A+ Advice Box #13: Social Distancing, Polyamorous Housing Decisions, and More!

Welcome to the 13th edition of Into the A+ Advice Box, in which we answer advice questions from A+ members who submitted their questions into our A+ ask box because they wanted their questions answered in a space that is not accessible by Google, their mom, their ex, etc.(No guarantees regarding your ex, however.) Previously, we have included such questions in our epic Some Answers to Some Questions You Have Been Asking Us, and in most cases that is still the plan. But some questions were a lot longer or more in-depth and deserved their own place in the sun. We’re now doing this column twice monthly, so get your questions in!

We solicited answers from the whole team, so let’s dive in!

Q 1:
I'm AFAB and imagine myself as a cis-man while watching porn or masturbating, probably 98% of the time. Am I trans?
A:
Malic: If this is the only aspect of your life in which you imagine yourself as a cisgender man, then you’re probably not trans. Our sexual fantasies often don’t r...

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