Interview With My Ex-Girlfriend: Jade

Welcome to Interviews With My Ex-Girlfriend, in which Autostraddle writers get back in touch with their ex-girlfriends to ask them Five Simple Questions:

How long did we date?
Why did we break up?
What did you learn from our relationship?
What do you miss most about me?
Would you invite me to your wedding (why/why not)?

I met Jade at a skateboard park somewhere in Hong Kong. It was the late nineties; we were just kids. She'd been dragged away from her plush school in Sydney because her mother had got a new job. I'd travelled there voluntarily, with a one-way ticket and no plan, job or place to stay. We became fast friends, and then more than friends. She was funny and beautiful. We spent every waking moment together. We held hands at the back of buses and made out in the back of cinemas. We smoked weed on her parents' rooftop and the crept into her bedroom after they went to bed. She would've been my first ever ex-girlfriend if we'd been sure or brave enough to put...

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Crystal is a 33-year-old Australian living in Chicago. Founding member, does HR stuff, writes now and then.

Crystal has written 324 articles for us.