Also.Also.Also: Evan Rachel Wood, Lesbian Scissoring, and Other Stories You Need

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12 Comments

  1. i sent that picture of ERWB to my straight best friend like “listen, ok, you must be able to appreciate how UNF this is” and she wrote back, “she’s pretty! i like her haircut!” being straight sounds wild.

  2. I definitely recommend Westworld if you’re a fan of dystopian fiction. I marathoned it with my partner and their sister over the long weekend, and it’s one of the best new shows I’ve seen in awhile.

    It is HBO though, so it has gratuitous boobs and blood and a dim view of human nature, so YMMV.

  3. Love those trans elder portraits–so beautiful!

    And the scissoring article is on point.

    Also, kudos to the fantastic Evan Rachel Wood for coming out as bisexual and being willing to speak about her experiences a survivor of abuse and multiple sexual assaults. It means so much to so many of us, especially bi women struggling with trauma and mental wellness. I can’t even begin to express how I feel about her courage.

  4. The scissoring piece is dead-on. I wrote a piece for my film blog on The Handmaiden & I’m still not entirely sure how I feel about it. Both enchanted and gross I guess.

    I saw In the Turn at our queer film festival a few years ago. I remember we liked it, we thought it was telling good, important stories, but we wished it was a bit smoother of a piece. You get some of that in that Vice piece, of how the project kept changing. Obviously worth watching, though!

  5. I don’t think the issue is how often we show scissoring at all… The issue how often men and straight women get to write and direct lesbian sex scenes. I think this could all be solved if:

    a) more lesbians got to actually write and direct lesbian sex scenes

    b) fewer lesbians felt too much shame to even attempt putting lesbian sex
    scenes in their work (since we feel both internalized homophobia and sexism, there really is an extra added layer of shame, I think, compared to gay men and straight women…)

    c) fictional lesbian sex began taking place for reasons other than just pure titillation. I can think of a million scenes where straight sex has been used just to add humour, for example, or has been implied or mentioned simply for realism, but this is SO rarely the case for us.

  6. You know straight sex is also not realistic in movies so I don’t understand why we’re always screaming “that’s not how lesbians have sex” excuse me but in Carol nothing really happened sex wise so if that’s an example of lesbian sex than I guess I haven’t been having lesbian sex…

  7. I’m confused why people are complaining about the sex in The Handmaiden. They did pretty much every lesbian act possible: oral, fingering, humping, etc. i would understand if all they did was scissoring, but they kinda covered the whole spectrum of sex acts there and I found it to be way less male gaze-y than I expected it to be. I can count on one hand the shows or movies that display lesbian sex in an erotic and genuine way, this is definitely one of them.

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