There's a dozen variations on the joke about how your ex's ex's ex is your girlfriend now — it's based in the truth that our communities are often so small and insular that even after you've broken up with someone, they can be kind of unavoidable. How do we deal with our exes going forward? Do you have to be friends? Is it better to cut them off entirely? There's no one answer, but here are ten from our team....
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