A+ Roundtable: Our Tops, Our Bottoms, Our Switches, Ourselves

We've been talking about tops, bottoms and switches for weeks now! After 3.6 thousand of you answered our very own in-house survey about what we talk about when we talk about this terminology for queer women, we wrote about bottoming in and out of kink contexts and submission; what it means to be a top or a dominant in lesbian sex; what is even the deal with switches, and compared statistical data we crunched on what all these people like to do in bed with and to each other. We talked about the different sub-identities within these terms — wtf is a pain switch or service sub!

And now today, finally and with much fanfare, *Law and Order sound* these are our stories — Autostraddle staffers share how they personally identify (or don't!) and why. The 13.4% of you who said you don't identify with these terms and the 8.9% of you who said you weren't sure how you identified, if at all, will be pleased to find that your experience is shared! The 12% of you who are tops, the 14.3% of you who...

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