17 Spashley Forum Topics Started By Autostraddle’s Business Director, 2006-2007

Sarah posting on the Spashley forums, 2007

Sarah posting on the Spashley forums, 2007

Our new Business and Design Director, Sarah Sarwar, passionately explored her lesbianism in the ’00s via passionate commitments to various fandoms. Specifically, Sarah really got real on the South of Nowhere Spashley fan forums. Like… REALLY REAL, Y’ALL. This week we’re all together in one geographical location working on this website and Sarah made the mistake of letting us see her storied world wide web history on The Spencer & Ashley Forums.

BTW her username was “mouthfull.”

Below, please enjoy some of the many forum topics that Sarah Sarwar herself began, including her creative sub-titles. Also now that I’ve used her full name three times in this post, she’ll never be able to work anywhere else besides here. As Sarah 2007 would say, “Bwahaha.”

1. Ashley’s FUGLY Ex

2. Who’s Afraid Of The Amazing Prices Lady?
Seriously, she scares me.

3. Are you shaved?
Purely moralistic discussion. Bwahaha

4. Kissing Boys.
I kissed a boy last night, bitches.

5. Sexy Punishments
Calling all creative lovers!

6. Degrassi Lesbian Porn!
Manny and Darcy could possibly get it on

7. Back Door Woman…
She’s got a boyfriend, and wants me too.

You know you watched them.

9. Okay, let’s just be perverts…
Don’t click if you can’t handle honesty!

U kan b awzeom in dis thread 4 shizzle

11. Is Nina a closeted Homo?
& how long will this thread survive?

12. Annoying Heterosexual Ex-Girlfriends
God. We even took SHOWERS together!!!

13. Check out my sexy journal layout

14. Tom Lynch… Maybe a little pervey?
Ever crossed your mind?

15. Outside My Window
Connections through the WINDOWPANE

16. HAHAHA. Oh Gabrielle.


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  1. wow wow wow i am OBSESSED. also, definitely thought backdoor woman would be about anal, not a girl with a boyfriend who also wants girls. this was NOT my life circa 06-07, but what a treat it would’ve been if it was!

  2. NO LIE: I did a full-fledged research project (funded by a competitive grant from my tiny liberal arts school, thank you very much) on the Spashley fandom the summer before I graduated and am almost certain I quoted material from at least one of these threads in the paper that resulted. God bless.

  3. Y’all wtf is Spashley

    In 2007 I was a sophomore in high school and I didn’t have a Facebook yet / was still annoyed that my parents made me get a cell phone / was very busy honing in on exactly why I hate myself & developing long term terrible coping mechanisms to b involved in “fandom”

  4. New people in media I like are usually filed under “Slightly Suspicious But Probably Okay” in my brain, but Sarah has officially splash landed right into “AMAZING!!!!!! *heart eyes emoji* *sparkle emoji* *jumping horse emoji*”

  5. Extremely disappointed that this is just a bare list and not actual links to the forum topics in question. I want to know more about the Back Door Woman!

    Now I feel all nostalgic for the Radiohead message board I used to frequent in the 00s, where my username was “moonstorm”, I made up adventure stories about a furry blue two-headed dragon, and I had my very first coming out when I announced to my forum-mates that I had a crush on my female gym instructor.

    • I was the back door woman and my friend was the one with the boyfriend. All I can say is we eventually hooked up but only after they broke up. Thank god for forum friends, they steered me in the right direction!

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