The Kind of Sex We’re Talking About Today, Part Two: Toeing

Hello there doe-eyed friend, this post isn't safe for work, unless you work from home at your dining room table listening to NPR and eating veggie quesadillas that you call Riese-adillas because they're just the ones Riese made for you last summer, like some of us. Moving on, do you have sex? What kind of sex do you have? What kind of sex are you talking about today? Today we're talking about this kind of sex. This is our story.

We spoke about toeing for the first A+ podcast, but that audio file got fucked up — too fucked for your earholes, but just audible enough to be transcribed. What follows is the transcript from that night in Big Bear, California last July, right after we'd taken Fireball shots and promised Grace we'd speak directly into the microphones cross our hearts amen.

Rachel: Grace, do you want to define "toeing" for our listeners?

Grace: Why don’t you define it?

Riese: Grace doesn’t drive, you guys, so she can't talk about it.

Alex: I was gonna make a ...

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