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Youth + Family

You Need Help: How Do I Explain Our Sperm Donor to a Five-Year-Old?

This is going to go great, I swear! Here are six tips to get you started.

By KaeLyn| May 5, 2020 | 18 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Marsha Pizza Johnson and Queer Family Matters

I want Remi to be able to write and narrate her own life. I owe her that as someone who had to reclaim my story.

By KaeLyn| February 22, 2020 | 53 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: How Being a Mom Changed My Mind About Abortion

I was proudly pro-abortion before I was a mom. I’ve doubled down on that belief after becoming one.

By KaeLyn| January 25, 2020 | 11 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Happy Holigays Are Here Again

Remi saved the holidays!

By KaeLyn| December 28, 2019 | 9 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: You Can Always Have a Hug

I want Remi to know that I’m here for her while also cultivating her skills for independence.

By KaeLyn| November 30, 2019 | 14 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: What Lies Between Us

“Do you feel like we’re drifting apart?” I asked.

By KaeLyn| November 2, 2019 | 23 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: The Art of Having A Good Time

Everything my toddler taught me about prioritizing play.

By KaeLyn| October 5, 2019 | 16 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: My Mommy Style Profile

I wouldn’t say I’ve escaped the Cult of Mommy completely. I’ve defined it for myself.

By KaeLyn| September 7, 2019 | 4 Comments
Youth + Family

How These Lesbian Couples Decided to Get Pregnant

For queer couples, deciding to get pregnant often involves a lot of planning, money, and time.

By Kayla| August 22, 2019 | 6 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Mommies, Daddies, and Babies

There are no right or wrong answers in queer and trans parenting choices, just the decisions we make.

By KaeLyn| August 10, 2019 | 19 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Goodbye Pull-Ups, Hello Three, Hello Love

“You have to wear pants to go outside.”

By KaeLyn| July 13, 2019 | 30 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Airplanes, A-Camp and Abdominal Pain

Even though I didn’t get to experience A-Camp in the traditionally transformative way, I got an even deeper peek into the ways that this community is both very real and deeply caring.

By KaeLyn| June 15, 2019 | 30 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: That All-Consuming Love

I didn’t understand unconditional love until I met Remi.

By KaeLyn| May 18, 2019 | 26 Comments
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My Diné Child Will Hunt, Bead and Everything in Between

“You girls are the talk of the ice-fishing derby!” I get that a lot. When we’re out hunting or fishing, my wife and I are frequently the only women (much less queer women) present.

By Nellis| May 13, 2019 | 9 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Having It All Is a Big, Heteronormative Lie

What I’ve learned is that parents and moms especially, even cool radical-minded queer moms, even boss-lady moms with lots of confidence in their own abilities, really can’t escape the “working mom” BS.

By KaeLyn| April 20, 2019 | 13 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Potty Training, Patience and Pride

It’s literally a social science experiment every day and we don’t have any control. That’s how it is with toddlers, I guess…

By KaeLyn| March 23, 2019 | 22 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Club Fawn, No Naps, and Reclaiming Procreation

Reclaiming queer procreation, dropping the last nap, stupid crows, Baby T. at A-Camp, and losta cute T. Rex pics.

By KaeLyn| February 23, 2019 | 39 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T. Rex: Dinos Resist! A Guide to Raising a Little Activist

“What I’m saying is, if you’re sitting in the legislative chamber trying to hear the floor debate and someone’s kid starts crying or yelling “Baby Shark!” please be kind to them.”

By KaeLyn| January 26, 2019 | 20 Comments
Youth + Family

“Just Treat Me Like Any Other Mother”: What Queer-Affirming Doulas Can Provide New LGBT Parents

For queer couples already facing marginalization in their lives and relationship before making the decision to become pregnant, the presence of a doula can be profound.

By Christina Tesoro| January 7, 2019 | 11 Comments
Youth + Family

Raising Baby T-Rex: My Mom Says We’re Exactly The Same

I wasn’t at all ready for the feelings I’d have about being adopted and queer and raising a toddler who still isn’t as old as I was when I came to the United States on an airplane.

By KaeLyn| February 13, 2018 | 64 Comments
Youth + Family

Exploring the Messy, Imperfect Joy of Queer Foster-to-Adopt Parenting

“And then she told us there was another child — a baby — at a nearby hospital. Were we interested? We said yes even though we had a thousand questions and just as many concerns (why was he in the hospital? Where were his birth parents? Who was holding him when he cried?). That baby turned out to be our son.”

By Nicole| November 16, 2017 | 22 Comments
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