I’m happy and grateful to be out, but I can’t get past feeling like I have created pain and difficulty for so many people.
Keeping it casual with straight gals, wondering if your kid and divorce will torpedo your lesbian dating life, and feeling disconnected from the queer community post-breakup. Plus some updates from past advice seekers! Let’s go!
A ruined friendship, body hair at work, coming out a little later when you’re about to marry a dude, and a frank conversation about assault. We really can have it all.
Being shy and 27 and coming out, feeling a way about your exes, moving to your long-distance girlfriend’s city, telling your long-distance friend you’re crushing on her, and swing dancing!
There’s a puppet at the end of this post, the deadly attack in Somalia, American teens are very anxious, Christianity is very polarized, our democracy is ?, gentrification isn’t overnight, and much more!
“I sent a short, simple message saying that although I didn’t realize it fully until recently, I was indeed bisexual, that this was an undeniable part of my identity, and I could no longer comfortably hide this fact.
He never responded.”
“I wasn’t in denial, I had just become extremely successful at compartmentalizing difficult emotions that I had no idea what to do with.”
A 28 year-old closeted lesbian and married mother of three, and a token gay friend who’s feeling quite encroached upon. Calling it like I see it!
Prank phone calls, women directors, sex ed is failing people of color, men in the music industry (and whoa, other places too!) are total garbage, Kesha, a film to prevent LGBT youth suicide, Cara Delevingne, coming out later in life and so much more!
The seasons are turning and we’re starting over with a new format and stories about people making big changes.
The fact that you’re working through all this now doesn’t say anything negative about you or the way you moved through life for the past 24 years. What you did then was valid, and what you’re doing now is valid.
Another Canadian actresses catches the girl-on-girl Valentine’s Day bug.
In her new book, Velasquez — an activist, model and actress who you may recognize from The L Word, Arrested Development, and the Mummy franchise — speaks openly about her relationship with Sandra Bernhard and struggling to come to terms with her sexuality.
“When you unearth one thing you didn’t know about yourself, it can be an opportunity to dive in and know all the things you were afraid to. It’s the scariest thing you’ll ever do and the most valuable.”
“I feel certain God loves me just the way I am.”
“I was simply a girl who thought she liked girls at one point in her life, but prayed it away, and now life was good. Right?”
Sometimes it takes a little time to figure out who the hell you are.
Is Willow’s insistence on identifying as gay, not bi, a biphobic or bi-erasing gesture? Or is she actually something separate, something more progressive and interesting than bi erasure – a strong, dynamic character whose sexual orientation is genuinely fluid?
So you fell in love with a girl and it upended your life with family, kids and religion. What now?
In this week’s edition of New York Times’ “Modern Love” column, actress Maria Bello talked about coming out to her son and her family and incidentally came out to all of us at the same time!
Welcome to the club, AB Chao! Your membership card is in the mail (with the toaster).