The Autostraddle team offers advice on a relationship crisis, dealing with the fact that your ex has moved on quickly, a friend who is less interested in rekindling the friendship than you are, commitment and marriage and more!

Lately I’ve been joking that I am everyone’s lesbian aunt (or grandfather, depending on whether or not I am offering encouragement or once again scolding half of our team for not having flashlights in their apartments!). And so I thought, what if I just embraced that vibe and put it to work.

Your community gallery for May! Nearly 100 queers doing the work!

What does it mean to be a queer adult? We’ve got mini-essays from our writers over thirty and three glorious infographics that look at census data and our own Autostraddle Grown-Ups Survey Data to get a grip on what happens next.

Do you think gender is a social construction? How do hormones affect your sex life? What can my LGBT organization do to better include trans people?

Bridget Matloff speaks on friendship with Gabby Windey, pressures of reality TV, thoughts on marriage, gender roles, and yes, haircare.

“I am so sorry I made a wish on a monkey’s paw for a trans lesbian musical to get an Oscar nomination and it resulted in us all having to suffer through Emilia Pérez.”

Animals, like people, have their own personalities and should be taken on a case-by-case basis. (AKA wherein Drew bravely says that snakes are maybe a bit sexy thanks to a certain pop star.)

The latest in Queer Sex 101, our series of real live queer people teaching you everything you need to know about real queer sex continues, with a one-hour workshop from sex educator, Autostraddle writer, SLICK editor and More, Please! editor Ro White on strap-on sex.

There’s nothing inherently more lesbian about watching two famous cishet Rachels playact queerness than watching a nonbinary drag queen kiss the shoulder of a trans woman drag queen.

“I remember little moments so vividly — like Ashley kissing Spencer on the shoulder while they looked in the refrigerator for something to eat. This is what I wanted. And I wasn’t afraid of wanting it anymore.”

“What do we in want from and for Lisa in 2019? Justice for him, or peace of mind for us? The desire to reach back in time and pull him into our present is natural because we – especially trans people – want to see her character restored in dignity, thus preserving our own dignity.”

“Other people built a gender for me and trusted that I would defend what they built. But what I was handed never made sense.”

Two queer American expats want to tell you everything that made them fall in love “Gay Paree!”

A-Camp 8.0 is six weeks away — and there’s still spots left if you wanna come! — which means we’re in full-fledged nostalgia and anticipation mode. Hop on in, read about camp, and if you’ve been, let us know which one was *your* favorite!

We talked to One Day at a Time writers, Becky Mann and Michelle Badillo, about gay representation on TV, how Autostraddle came to be in the script, their queer TV roots, what kind of LGBT stories are missing from TV and what’s in store for Elena in a potential next season.

Our panel answers your questions about getting knocked up, adopting, the challenges and rewards of queer mom life, and so much more!

Out lesbian actresses Jill Bennett & Cathy DeBuono speak out for the first time on leaving AfterEllen, mainstream fame in Hollywood, the story behind popular rumors, avoiding the lesbian urge to merge and being big fish in the small “celesbian” pond.

“I’d like to see if porn does anything for me, would you have any (ethical, lesbian) recommendations for the first try of a young adult with an eye for the femmier?”

On growing up with (or without) guns.