Real life worries from readers like you! Including: coming out at any age, getting comfortable with butt sex, and so many questions about moving! Get ready! It’s a party!

Is it a date or are we just friends? Why not both! This week we’re talking about fucking your friends with Autostraddle Community Editor and fucking your friends expert Vanessa Friedman.

We live in a time when you can see yourself reflected in all kinds of media, from all kinds of corporations, who never liked to talk about us before. But when you click on those things, you are giving people money who are not part of our community.

Oh did you think there wouldn’t be a chicken in here? WRONG.

The fact is most of the films about us — and especially the films by us — do not get the attention they deserve. But nobody is better equipped to tell our stories than we are.

Come commiserate the end of our problematic fave, talk about the state of queer television at large, cast an L Word prequel set in 90s new York, and learn what We, the hosts of To L and Back, would have happen to all of the characters after the end of this season!

Bringing someone home to meet your parents is such a trope it’s become an entire genre of movie. But for many queer people there are two families to introduce to a partner: given and chosen. And sometimes the chosen family is scarier.

“My next note on this scene is, “I literally screamed in this hotel room,” which is true.”

“To have a space that is completely your own, that you can show up as you are — if you want to show up in drag, if you want to show up and show off your scars, nobody is going to say anything outside of celebrating you — I think that’s very powerful.”

“Manhunt is really my attempt to show the utility and the importance of existing in discomfort.”

“In Gigi’s head she’s always calculating everything and very aware of everyone’s emotions and very aware of her own emotions and then does the chaotic thing anyways. And that’s how I live my life and I love to see it on TV in someone so hot.”

“I just want to say, I know that this woman is supposed to be from Kansas City — and that’s actually a personal attack on me.”

“I watched her zip up her white dress in the mirror; I watched her cross and uncross her legs; I watched her, and my friends watched her, and in the movie we were watching the other characters, men and women, watched her. I hated her so much, and so purely, with such satisfaction. I couldn’t look away.”

“I feel like so much of the theme of ‘straight women idealizing women’ just came from my dark times in women’s media. This idea that if you have a space that’s just women that it’s somehow superior — that just became so funny to me!”

Yvonne gets super-real about dealing with a very difficult situation, Aja talks toners, Cee takes a kitten on an airplane, and Laneia, Riese, Rachel and Heather say other things in response to things you said to us and well I don’t know I just think this is a really good one.

The team answers A+ member questions like: How do you reconnect with friends after not being in touch during COVID? Do you tell a friend where you’re going if you’re meeting someone from the internet on a date? How do you support your partner in speaking up against micro (and macro) aggressions at work? What do you do if you have a crush on a (maybe straight) coworker? How do you navigate a food-related relationship pickle? …And more!

Honey, we’re home!!!! “Wait, Is This a Date?” is back and we’re talking all things mommi culture! And all things dating as an actual mom!

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to get through this thing called… a season finale! And to celebrate that ending, who better to come on and discuss the joys and successes of a long distance crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman?

It’s time trans people get to showcase our desires, in all their variety, in all their complexity, in all their possibility.

“If I was accidentally on a date with Gigi, it would be the best day of my life.”