“I believe that creating affirming and diverse trans community is literally life-saving work, and I want everyone to stay alive and maybe even flourish.”

What it means to show up for your partners, cutting the cord with an ex, a few approaches to non-monogamy, an anal anatomy lesson and more.

We don’t ever grow out of our need for touch, though as we mature, that kind of intimacy tends to only be expressed sexually. But sexual intimacy isn’t the only type of intimacy there is.

I’m interested in Pride as a time for angry resistance! As such, I’ve got a bunch of new queer rock music to share.

I wanted to be whole, pure, the person I was supposed to be. I wanted to be good enough that my sexuality wouldn’t matter.

“hey i’m adding the search terms to the newsletter and just curious, what is “gazelle style sex”??????”

Netflix’s Unbelievable covers the true story of Marie Adler. For many women that have taken their rapist(s) to court, the show sheds light on painful truths.

“Being out of the closet is really intense when you’re related to Shelly Pfefferman.”

I considered titling this “Latinx Butches 2018: Welcome To The Thirst Trap,” but that didn’t seem very professional, you know?

Q: What is the L Word** and why are we LARPing about it?
A: If you’ve never seen the iconic, important, drama-infused, and at times problematic** television show about West Hollywood lesbians living, laughing, learning, loving, etc., it’s not too late – and it’s on Netflix! Autostraddle has a helpful guide on how to ease in (https://tinyurl.com/y424w74s). If you’re familiar with the program, you may also know that the series will be relaunched sometime in the near-ish future. We LARP to celebrate and lampoon this vanguard of lesbian representation before it is unleashed upon the world again!

Q: When? Where? How much?
A: Saturday, May 4 | The Starliner – 1446 Myrtle Ave.
5 bux in advance / 10 bux day-of and at the door.
Get yr tickets here: https://tinyurl.com/yys3wzyu
All proceeds go to the Queer Detainee Empowerment Project ♥

Q: What’s gonna happen?
8:30 PM – DJ Disco Bruja + L Word Trivia w/ Lily Marotta and Minnie Bennett
10 PM – Dance party w/ host/comedian/L Word commentator Jess Henderson
+ DJs flipphone, elosi + more
All night: queers, dancing, cruising, larping.

Q: What is LARPING?
A: Technically it means live action role play. In this case, it means come as your favorite L word character, element, or lesbian abstraction (Bette, Alice, a leather cuff, a couple’s therapist, whatever!)

Q: What should you wear?
A: LARP MEANS LARP, Y’ALL! Costumes required! Come as your favorite core cast member, that throwback deep cut cameo from season 2, or that side character you wished made it into regular rotation. Early aughts lesbians in southern California? The possibilities are endless!:
https://www.autostraddle.com/31-most-iconic-l-word-outfits-ranked-by-incandescence-439178/
https://www.pride.com/lesbian/2016/6/09/45-most-unbelievable-outfits-l-word
http://gomag.com/article/i-dressed-as-a-different-l-word-character-every-day-of-halloween-week-this-is-what-happened/

Q: Who is invited?
A: If you love/feel some kinda way about The L Word, you’re invited! (queers, allies, everybody! but please understand and be respectful that this is a queer party, so come correct.)

Q: How can you stay informed/see gay memes until the event on May 4?
A: RSVP on this here Facebook event.
Buy your tickets here: https://lwordlarp.brownpapertickets.com/
Follow us on the gram: https://www.instagram.com/THE_WAY_THAT_WE_LIVE/

Please spread the word to your friends, lovers, and frenemies!!
See you on May 4 ♥

LLLLLLLLL,
The Board of the CAC
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**When the L Word began airing in 2004, it was, for some queer women, the first time we saw ourselves writ large. Or, at least, it was one of the first times we saw our friendships, romances, traumas, and heartbreaks on television, with storylines that did not end exclusively in tragedy or a nunnery. It was big and important and over the top and a huge part of some folks’ early queer lives.

The L Word was also highly problematic, heavily focused on a white cis woman experience within an elite socioeconomic class, often complicit in blatant racist and transphobic messaging, and suffered for its exclusion of the queer experience of people outside of a wealthy West Hollywood lesbian community. This event seeks to celebrate the parts of the L word we wish to keep – the LOLs, the drama, the characters and moments that made us feel connected and seen. And to critique and leave behind the parts that made queer folx feel anything less than loved and lifted up. Lez do this ♥

You have 48 hours to vote for your faves!

Here are the chic, homey and stylishly functional home goods I have picked out for Carol to fully outfit her West Hollywood bungalow in preparation for its inevitable Apartment Therapy spotlight.

Riese: I would text Riley and be like “you up?”
Carly: Are you still at the gay bar…? Because?
Riese: I would come back incensed with rage and ready to make a mistake.
Carly: Ready to ruin my relationship.
Riese: Yes. I would be full of the spirit of ruin and ready to share it.
Carly: Which is not Christmas spirit, but it is kind of related.

Plus updates on Beverly Hills 90210, Claws, Bachelor in Paradise, and Ambitions!

Callie and Mariana are back, and there’s a new lesbian in town!

Charmed decided to get “serious” about its magic, and along the way it forgot everything that made the season campy fun, addictive, feminist, silly and yes – the greatness of centering queer women of color in the middle of all.

8 queer women books to make you laugh!

“It would be amazing/hilarious/infuriating if Disney’s first true queer representation was in a movie about lesbian dogs.”

Humor infused with hope is a real gift in 2019.

I pulled these nuggets of little gold from all three hours of Endgame and I cannot wait to re-live them in obsessive, snarky detail with you!