Being in your 30’s with no queer dating experience, packing a carry-on for a long-distance date, dealing with astrology if you don’t believe in it, and more!

A quick look back at A-Camp X!

Maybe, she finds herself thinking, there could be space for joy in this new life. Maybe, she dreams, as she finishes the last page and immediately starts the book over again, this is not so hopeless after all.

“I feel like people started enacting these borders around it and categorizing it, and that felt so bad and wrong, and the antithesis of everything that it should be. Then, some people also really conflated it with the idea of being genderless or agender, and I’m like, “No…” I feel a lot of gender feelings! I don’t know what they are, or what they mean, but they’re there.”

“Sometimes winning the switch fight meant kind of losing. When you were both switches, though, everybody won no matter the outcome. It all came down to pride and play.”

Many of these companies are small, queer and independently-owned themselves, which makes their donations to A-Camp even more amazing!

This fall we’ve got terrifying queer horror, swoony lesbian romance, cute sapphic YA, intriguing lit fic, monstrous women in fantasy and sci fi, new feminist history books, and much more!

I will never again cultivate a romantic relationship with a cis person on purpose, not in this life. I have been hurt too badly, too often, by too many people. T4T only. Inscrutable genders from outer space to the front, those that can be best described as “smell of campfire” && “a great pink shape.” && those best described as “a single chandelier earring dragging across your chest while we fuck.”

“kayla and laneia stumped me because of the long flowy mommi lounging situations in both photos, and then i got them mixed up because kayla put a set of four mini cocottes on her list, and i honestly just assumed she already owned those and laneia’s been tweeting about making dessert.”

An Officially Gay League Of Their Own!! Also: queers are now leaving “the big city” by choice, creating boundaries with your friends is especially important right now, and Michelle Obama on managing her depression.

“I would follow Kehlani to Narnia, to a gambling ring. Really to anywhere.”

Transformative. Powerful. Restorative. Life-changing. These are some of the words A-Campers used to describe the Body Posi Plus Size Party we hosted with ModCloth and Mary Lambert at A-Camp X.

When I was a teenager, my parents prepped for the y2k crisis. Now I’m trying to understand what queer preparedness looks like in an uncertain time.

It’s not the size of the boat shoes, it’s the motion of the ocean!

This week’s Extra! Extra! brings you more news of antiblack violence paired with updates on what activists are up to in the US and a look at antiblack and anti-indigenous violence around the world. This was a big week for the US Supreme Court so we’ll bring you up to speed on what’s happened there. And, of course, your COVID-19 update plus a general survey of the state of things worldwide to close out.

Any app is a dating app if you have confidence and a good selfie. Combine that attitude with Instagram’s many features for actually getting to know what someone is like and connecting with their life, and you’re halfway to adopting a cat with someone or just sucking their face off, whichever you’re looking for.

Olive Garden said gay rights

Planned Parenthood knows we deserve to feel good in our bodies, our communities and our lives — and one winner of this contest will get to do so at A-Camp thanks to PP!

In LA the night before A-Camp? Just live in LA and want to meet some fellow Straddlers?

The public library is in the unique position to pick up where public education leaves off—to succeed where public education fails. It’s time we start rethinking what a library can be.