I haven’t seen my girlfriend in nearly two months, other than on FaceTime. And I don’t know when I’m going to see her again. I made her a version of this playlist, as I was looking for chill, relaxing vibes that were also sexy and romantic for some kind of long-distance connection.

But upon listening to it over and over, I realized it’s also perfect for some, well, self-love. If you’re not living with your partner, the only person you should be having sex with right now is yourself! You deserve to practice elaborate masturbation in your life. Now’s the perfect time!

These songs are for slowing down, relaxing, maybe sparking it up, laying in bed, staring out the window, and thinking of bae. Alternatively, they’re for slowing down, relaxing, maybe sparking it up, laying in bed, and getting to know yourself better (in the Biblical sense).

The Playlist:

Excerpts from Selected Tracks:

Listen to the lyrics, and realize that every love song on this list — and, essentially, every love song in general, really — could be about self-love! Sing these songs to your partner over FaceTime, or go look in the mirror and sing these songs to yourself (before you get down with yourself).

Dounia, “Love-Showered”

Keep me blushing, love-showered/ Show me pleasure for hours/ Beg me to eat up, devour/ ‘Cause you loving my power/ … Don’t know if I’m being selfish/ Fuck it, call me selfish/ Only want it if it’s fun, that’s how it should be/ Now I’m selfish/ Fuck it, call me selfish.

Girl Ultra, “Llama”

Cuando cae la noche quiero que tu estés aquí/ Quiero que tú estés aquí/ Llama antes de irte a dormir/ Baby, acuérdate de mí.
(Roughly: When the night falls I wish you were here/ I want you here/ Call me before you go to sleep/ Baby, remember me).

Kacy Hill ft. Francis And The Lights, “I Believe In You”

I believe in you/ And you are my proof/ That everything gets better and/ That love can be true/ I believe in you.

James Blake ft. ROSALÍA, “Barefoot In The Park”

Ya tengo to’ lo que quiero/ Ya no puedo pedir má’/ Cuando te tengo a mi la’o/ Lo pasa’o se queda atrá’/ Si te apartan de mi vera/ Y te tuviera que encontrar/ Hasta allá te encontraría/ Como el río va a la mar.

(Roughly: I have all that I need/ I can’t ask for more/ When I have you by my side/ The past stays behind/ If they separated us/ And I had to find you/ I’d go anywhere to find you/ Like the river goes to the sea).

Leikeli47, “Top Down”

Patient with my pride/ You move it all aside/ Never had a lover/ So careful and kind/ Ain’t much that I need, rather be/ Caught up in your rhapsody/ And I don’t mind/ I don’t mind.

The Japanese House, “f a r a w a y”

She makes me wonder why/ She makes me wonder what I’m doing/ Spending all these seconds away from her/ The time I’m losing/ Being far away, I’m lost in space/ Make it go away, all this space between us.

Be Steadwell, “Don’t Be Afraid”

Let’s find a way/ to let go of the roles that you always play/ Cuz in my hands/ You can feel safe/ Don’t be afraid/ If I turn you on/ Turn you out/ Don’t be afraid if I/ Steal my name from your mouth/ Don’t be afraid if you wanna ride/ Don’t be afraid to show me your soft side/ You can show your soft side.

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