NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Just Saw A Face

Feature of Freya French and Johnny Starlight in Crash Pad Series episode 221. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of the Crash Pad Series. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Trouble, Dylan Ryan, and Chelsea Poe in Crash Pad Series episode 148

+ ’Tis the season for one-night stands, according to data from OkCupid:

“[T]here’s a 17% increase on average in people looking for one night stands in April, May and June. June is the most popular month for this trend, with 33% more people looking for a one night stand compared to the other eleven months of the year. Yup — you’re in peak season. Right now.”

Odile and Daisy Ducati in Crash Pad Series episode 160

+ Why are people into masochism? Tina Horn writes:

“Like most humans, I live with the constant anxiety that I will be hurt. Emotionally wounded, physically assaulted, my world attacked. The ritualistic practice of masochism helps to purge that fear. It gives me a space to scream. Much in the same way a massage, a workout, or acupuncture is uncomfortable but constructive, masochism facilitates the experience of being hurt without being harmed. After a scene, I always feel enormous relief that I was strong enough to endure the experiences I welcomed.

In our podcast conversation, Lola points out something else we share: that BDSM has helped her to process past experiences, expanding and deepening her understanding of her body after trauma. Consensual erotic pain can encourage us to practice and subvert the pain of the world.”

Indigo Bleu and Viceroy in Crash Pad Series episode 175

+ Want to take the perfect naked selfie? Choose somewhere you feel comfortable, use a camera and tripod, have a theme even if it’s just being naked on the floor, and think about framing, focus and lighting.

+ It feels weird when you see the same other faces on dating apps over and over over.

+ Here’s how to ask a date to go home with you.

+ However much sex you’re having or not having is okay if you feel like it’s okay, but if you want to know how much sex everyone else is having, here you go.

+ How do you stay present when your body invokes the past? At LitHub, Alexandria Marzano-Lesnevich writes about bodies, sex, and living with trauma:

“At first, the world goes only a little bit shaky. At first it is even confusing: Is what I am feeling the slippage into pleasure, the softening of sensation, and the sweet coax of want? Or is it the cold rumbling of terror? There is still a chance then, a chance that I will not go under into the memory. I notice the precipice I am approaching. I grip her shoulders, as though by holding on to her I can hold onto myself. I open my eyes and watch her hands. Or maybe I jolt upright and flip her, hoping she sees my movement as urgency, as simple desire, and if she sees that it will be true. I touch her, because in touching her I can make her solid. In my head I say her name. I find my voice and ask her to say mine — and she does.

But if I have had to ask her for that, it is already too late.”

Scout and Lew Pine in Crash Pad Series episode 227

+ Sexual freedom does not belong only to the young. In “The Emancipation of the MILF,” Kim Brooks writes:

“In our last conversation, I asked Dederer if she thought this new willingness to confront our fears of midlife female power (sexual or political), or to represent the lively erotic lives of older and sometimes married women without mockery or judgement, might suggest the presence of a larger cultural shift on the horizon. Is it possible we might be nearing a moment when married women and mothers can partake in some of the freedom and inventiveness and boundary-breaking younger, single women now enjoy?”


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Ryan Yates

Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Ryan has written 1142 articles for us.

4 Comments

  1. “My standard response to rejection is to convince myself they’ve met somebody else, a better fit, usually a soothing illusion. Seeing her on the app again was a stark reminder she did not meet anyone else. She just wasn’t into me.”

    Ouch. This.

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