NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Laughing, Crying, Sneezing

Feature of Cherry Torn and Lilith Luxe in Crash Pad Series episode 213. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of the Crash Pad Series. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Odile and Daisy Ducati in Crash Pad Series episode 160

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

+ Textbooks sucked at vulvas and vaginas in the 16th century, and they suck now, too:

“University of Cambridge researchers recently discovered a 16th-century anatomy book with one peculiar feature: a triangular cut out where the vagina would’ve appeared. It was almost too perfect — a metaphor for Western culture’s denial of female sexuality. It was more than a metaphor, in fact. The vulva has literally been erased and censored from textbooks and anatomy diagrams for centuries, and parts of it still are today.”

Scout and Lew Pine in Crash Pad Series episode 227

+ “Knowing about your body and being able to talk about it in a way that’s productive and doesn’t feel shameful is important. I really wanted to go and do something about it,” says Liz Klinger, founder — with James Wang and Anna Lee — of Lioness, a vagina-based vibrator that tracks contractions, temperature and movements to help users learn what works for their bodies, in an interview at the Establishment. Later, she continues:

“Data isn’t sexy…’ but I’ve found the irony is that taking away some of that ‘sexiness’ can actually make sex better for people  —  data helps removes some of that stigma.

All this data is a basis for conversation  —  we’re not diagnosing anything. We’re offering generalized advice. This is physiological data, just like your menstrual, diet, or exercise patterns. Your body and its orgasms are not this weird and magical thing. It’s just like any other bodily function.”

Freya French and Johnny Starlight in Crash Pad Series episode 221

+ Here is how to practice feminism in relationships.

+ Side-effects of orgasms can include “laughing, crying, sneezing, and general weakness, aka cataplexy,” according to a new review of studies. Also on the list: foot, ear, or facial pain; headaches; foot orgasms; seizures; feeling tired and feverish for four to seven days; dysphoria; and more.

+ If you have a certain aesthetic, why not accessorize with sex toys. (Honestly 10/10 would recommend.)

+ My compliments to the editor who positioned this piece as “How can you hide your true self long enough for someone to fall in love with you?,” but honestly this advice seems more to me like: feel out where a new partner (however casual) and draws boundaries and expectations with communications and with time and make sure they line up with yours.

+ Sext them with flowers.

La Muxer Diosa and Mars the Prince in Crash Pad Series episode 238

+ (This piece is so hetero but) successful long-term relationships depend on embracing change:

“Feeling oppressed by change or lack of change; it’s a tale as old as time. Yet at some point in any long-term relationship, each partner is likely to evolve from the person we fell in love with into someone new — and not always into someone cuter or smarter or more fun. Each goes from rock climber to couch potato, from rebel to middle manager, and from sex crazed to sleep obsessed.

Sometimes people feel betrayed by this change. […]

And yet being forever content with a spouse, or a street, requires finding ways to be happy with different versions of that person or neighborhood.”

Something to think about before you move in together.

Trouble, Dylan Ryan, and Chelsea Poe in Crash Pad Series episode 148

Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

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7 Comments

  1. Idk how I feel about the broadly piece. If I have to play all those games with someone… meh. ‘They didn’t text me back enough so now I have to /power move/ cancel a date I actually wanted to go on but act very sorry. Surely now they will like me.’ ? I get what you’re saying about feeling someone out, sure, but if you have to keep tabs then maybe that’s a sign you obviously don’t communicate/connect similarly enough.

    • I agree with you completely and thanks for saying that! That’s some of the reason why I look at dating and go “oh shit,” do I have to have a Masters in Game Theory to date someone? I don’t play games, which is probably why I’m single…I don’t know, but that’s for actually making me believe that not everyone wants dating to be a chess match 🙂

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