NSFW Sunday Is Obsessed With Dream Daddy

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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

@itsmeshortea + @nikia_deshawn via rodeoh

+ Setting a thirst trap? Here’s how to take good selfies.

+ “‘There’s no right or wrong way to pierce your nipple—left, right, both—there’s no script,’ Thompson says. ‘It’s whatever the fuck you want to do and however the fuck you want to do it.’” If you’re thinking about nipple piercings, opt for barbells over rings, remember it can take six months to a year to heal, and leave it alone while it does.

@marilyn831 via rodeoh

+ Money in relationships is complicated.

+ Revelations from this exploration of millennial dating patterns and technology: people still call people they’re seeing on the actual phone (?????); taking hours to text back is a bad tactic; actually put thought into your profile; and the best first dates involve food, conversation, and time limits.

@caitlin.hayley via rodeoh

+ Check out these apps for sexual health.

+ Love spells are complicated. (Don’t mess with free will, okay?)

+ Sexting is great for relationships as long as you trust each other.

@slimkatkim via rodeoh

+ Did you learn about (hetero) sex from Jean M. Auel? You’re not alone, writes Kelly Faircloth (and same):

“I wound up getting my practical sex education from Jean M. Auel’s The Valley of Horses, a book about a couple of Cro-Magnons in love and screwing madly at the dawn of human history. And I’m not the only one, either. Though I was a high school freshman when I discovered Auel, I could relate to writer Lizz Huerta’s San Diego City Beat piece, in which she recalled hitting the book’s first sex scene as a preteen growing up in a house long on warnings and short on details: ‘I was 12 and it blew my fucking mind.’”

@whiteblazed via rodeoh

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Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1125 articles for us.

9 Comments

  1. I’m SHOCKED I thought I was the only one to have my pre-teen life changed by Jean M. Auel’s books!! The first sex scene between the two main characters is focused on her receiving oral sex and it turned me on so much that I had the first orgasm of my entire life reading this. (It’s a very gay “first time masturbating” story. I’ve never looked back since.)

  2. Was literally just looking up how to take a good selfie and looking at that Allure article! AS how do you know my life so well always. And I’m feeling a lot more confident about using this advice now that you are advocating the same haha.

  3. Re: The Valley of Horses: ME TOO. My parents were extremely strict about both sex and media consumption. The one area of freedom I had was books (probably because it would have been too difficult for them to assess the “appropriateness” of my reading material in the early days of the internet). I got the Valley of Horses out of the library. The only version the library had was a large print edition. When I encountered the sex scenes I was scared out of my mind that my parents would wander in and see at a glance that I was reading INAPPROPRIATE THINGS in all their large-print glory.

    My entire sex-positive education as a teenager came from The Valley of Horses and Tamora Pierce’s Song of the Lioness series.

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