NSFW Sunday Is Using Sex As A Coping Mechanism

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Welcome to NSFW Sunday! How’s your sex drive doing lately?

Betty Blac and Kitty Stryker in Crash Pad Series episode 132

+ The current political landscape of pre-apocalyptic America is still affecting people’s sex lives. For some people, it’s hard to think about sex when everything is on fire; for others, if everything is on fire, why not take joy where you can find it? At Elle, Whitney Reynolds writes:

“These different responses to global anxiety are entirely normal, according to NYC-based therapist Abigail Zackin. ‘Some people are psychologically organized that sex is the furthest thing from their minds during a crisis because they’re too busy regulating their emotions through other means, either internal or external, but some people’s go-to coping tool is sex and sexual pleasure.’

Byron Dubois and Patience Morgan in Crash Pad Series Episode 218

+ Allure has a portrait series of five women discussing their pubic hair and I’m obsessed with it. In her story, Andi notes:

“I’m a woman who is attracted to other women, [and] I find myself attracted to people with all kinds of body hair — whether that’s completely shaved, or styled, or just completely natural, all these things can be really, really sexy to me. On myself, though, I prefer not have any hair. It’s not so much a thing about femininity to me, it’s more just that I love the way that my skin feels when it’s completely smooth and bare…. So before I go out to a play party, or before I’m planning a big date, I’ll always be sure to remove all of my hair just so I feel nice and sexy about it.”

Leigh Raven and Nikki Hearts in Crash Pad Series episode 217

+ These sex toys are representative of something, but not human body parts.

+ Or just try to use a fidget spinner as a sex toy.

+ Wasps’ nests do not belong in vaginas.

+ In Dazed, Louisa Knight discussed being a pro-sub.

+ Women’s desire has always been seen as a threat.

La Muxer Diosa and Mars the Prince in Crash Pad Series episode 238

+ Moving in with a partner! You can do it without wanting to kill each other, allegedly. Consider whether you actually know each other, whether you actually like each other, what your problems are, and how you can solve them together:

“Are you aware of each other’s fears? Do you know how to take care of each other when you’re having a rough day or sick? How aware are you of all the little attributes that make you who you are? Additionally, a couple should talk about the bigger decisions you’ll have to make, before making this commitment. Have you discussed kids? Do you each believe in marriage? Where do you see yourself settling down in the future? What is an acceptable income for the two of you? Some of this may seem preemptive, but if you cannot talk about these things and find equal ground, a move-in may not be a wise next step.”

Akira Raine and Valentine in Crash Pad Series Episode 126

+ Hot people have shorter relationships, according to a new study:

“[P]retty people may have more breakups because they may be less willing to do the work necessary to maintain their relationships. ‘I think attractiveness gives you more options in terms of relationship alternatives,’ Ma-Kellams tells Broadly, ‘which might make it harder to protect a relationship from outside threats. In this sense, having too many other choices is likely not beneficial for relationship longevity.’”

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Ryan Yates

Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Ryan has written 1142 articles for us.

5 Comments

  1. If hot people have shorter relationships it might explain why Tom Hanks is been married for so long and the rest of Hollywood divorces pretty quick.

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