“Despite the more than $15 billion sex toy industry, investors are scared to touch sex toys. ‘Developing hardware requires a lot of capital — but traditional sources of funding … aren’t always enthusiastic about investing in products related to sex,’ says Lux Alptraum, a sex writer who consulted on the Ambrosia Vibe. ‘Crowdfunding allows sex toy developers to get the money they need to go into production by connecting with the very audience who benefits from their work.’
Thing is, Kickstarter is scared of sex toys, too. That’s why companies have had to look to sex-friendly crowd-funding sites.”
“The change that is taking place enables people to develop relationships based on their own sexualities, understandings, and agreements. This means they can create what Dr. Ken Haslam, founder of the Kinsey Institute’s Polyamory Archive, has called “designer relationships”. We feel this term reflects a much healthier and nuanced approach, one that moves beyond the binary thinking that deems monogamy and polyamory to be irreconcilable opposites. […] The possibilities are limitless, and thinking about a partnership as something people design or craft allows for flexibility and change.”
“While 80% of the group were able to accurately identify when someone wasn’t flirting, only 36% of men and 18% of women could tell that their partner was being flirtatious. In one particularly tragic pairing, both the man and woman said that they were flirting with their partners, but neither of them thought that they were being flirted with back. (Imagine the looks of longing that these two will share across the student union…)
‘If you think someone is not interested in you, you are probably right, they are not interested,’ remarked Hall. ‘But if someone is, you probably missed it.’
So even if you’re not being rejected, you could very easily end up rejecting yourself. To turn a negative into a positive, this is a very self-reliant way to do dating.”
+ If you want a written guide to how to eat pussy, this one uses the phrase “unique flower” and makes gender assumptions but is otherwise pretty solid (though “ask your activity partner what they like” should be first).
+ Teenagers sext regardless of gender, but girls are shamed for it, because the patriarchy:
“What the researchers wanted their qualitative study to tell them wasn’t how prevalent sexting was, but how teens felt about it, and why they did or did not do it, given the risks that their communications could be shared.
What they found was that these technologies—mobile phones, cheap and ubiquitous cameras, etc.—don’t change the underlying culture of sexism in which these kids find themselves. The pioneers of the Internet might have hoped that network technology could transform culture, but instead the tools have become another outlet for the dominant cultural mores to express themselves.”
+ Alabama has legalized oral and anal sex following a challenge to a long-standing law that used to hold that “consent is no defence to a prosecution under this subdivision”:
“Until there are challenges, like the one in Alabama, the motivation to remove outdated, discriminatory laws may not be there – and not just in conservative states but even progressive ones. Yet as executive director of the American Civil Liberties Union of Alabama Susan Watson said this week, ‘Aiming to ban consensual sex is flat out wrong. A person’s sexual orientation shouldn’t matter. Consensual sex is consensual sex.’”
“The only time Monique was unconcerned about her appearance was when she was eating pussy. She put her whole face into it, using not just her mouth, her lips, tongue and teeth, but her chin, cheeks, and nose. She adored everything about having her whole self engulfed right between a woman’s thighs, and worked painstakingly to get as far as she could into a woman’s cunt while doing so. She ran her tongue along first outer, then inner, labia on either side, cooling the centre of Cherise’s count before returning with a hot, hdd stroke up the middle, from oily centre to clit, that left Cherise squealing. She suckled at the throbbing clit, snatching it into her mouth and vibrating her tongue across its round head for just a moment, then circling the little shaft several times.”
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‘If you think someone is not interested in you, you are probably right, they are not interested,’ remarked Hall. ‘But if someone is, you probably missed it.’ – story of my dating life. I’m so clueless, it hurts.
I’m in a long distance relationship where just today, she called me upset over not being able to physically touch/be there with me and worrying over it (it’s her first long distance, and while we’re not dating dating since I’m giving her time to figure things out, we’re definitely ‘dating’), so man did I get excited over that bionic strap on. Add to it that I’m pretty genderqueer overall and it was like angels singing from the heavens.
But like the other commentator, I saw the price and balked. The early bird is reasonable and I’d back it there, maybe, but I can’t even bring myself to buy a rodeOH and the bionic strapon plus a rodeOH would pretty much be the price of a two-way plane ticket to visit her.
So some day when this technology is so common that it’s $20, I’ll grab those singing angels and give them a kiss on the lips for delivering the flying pigs.
The idea of a bionic dildo came to me literally yesterday and I drunk-texted everyone I could think of for their responses.
Now I wake up and read this.
There goes my only shot at a Nobel prize (because I’m assuming this will win one).
I disapprove of that article about eating a person out on My Tiny Secrets. Not only did they say “unique flower” and make gender assumptions, but the language seemed degrading and possessive. “make her your slave,” “she’s yours” etc. Also the recommended articles said stuff like “a woman’s guide to penis worship.”
This site looks great. I have been coming through sites here and so many are not what they say. I have been looking for some erotic course lately, found this one – https://www.orgasmicheart.com/. Wondering if anyone had other suggestions? Just wanted to have more relaxing fun. Keep on having fun everyone.
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I feel like if I ever got that bionic dildo I’d have to just go the whole way and get the complete Iron Man suit.
‘If you think someone is not interested in you, you are probably right, they are not interested,’ remarked Hall. ‘But if someone is, you probably missed it.’ – story of my dating life. I’m so clueless, it hurts.
I had my doubts about the “bionic dildo” concept, and then I read the description, and now I want one.
For $149, though, I think I’ll wait until I see some reviews.
I’m in a long distance relationship where just today, she called me upset over not being able to physically touch/be there with me and worrying over it (it’s her first long distance, and while we’re not dating dating since I’m giving her time to figure things out, we’re definitely ‘dating’), so man did I get excited over that bionic strap on. Add to it that I’m pretty genderqueer overall and it was like angels singing from the heavens.
But like the other commentator, I saw the price and balked. The early bird is reasonable and I’d back it there, maybe, but I can’t even bring myself to buy a rodeOH and the bionic strapon plus a rodeOH would pretty much be the price of a two-way plane ticket to visit her.
So some day when this technology is so common that it’s $20, I’ll grab those singing angels and give them a kiss on the lips for delivering the flying pigs.
I feel like I need
more Haikus in my life. So,
thanks for that, Anna.
You credited the wrong person. Your main image is the lovely http://sugarhowyou-getsofly.tumblr.com/ and her fiancee :)
The idea of a bionic dildo came to me literally yesterday and I drunk-texted everyone I could think of for their responses.
Now I wake up and read this.
There goes my only shot at a Nobel prize (because I’m assuming this will win one).
The Haikus… brilliant!
I disapprove of that article about eating a person out on My Tiny Secrets. Not only did they say “unique flower” and make gender assumptions, but the language seemed degrading and possessive. “make her your slave,” “she’s yours” etc. Also the recommended articles said stuff like “a woman’s guide to penis worship.”
a homework session! 0_O
This site looks great. I have been coming through sites here and so many are not what they say. I have been looking for some erotic course lately, found this one – https://www.orgasmicheart.com/. Wondering if anyone had other suggestions? Just wanted to have more relaxing fun. Keep on having fun everyone.