NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Knows How To Muff

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@madasin via rodeoh

“For many trans women, penis stimulation doesn’t accomplish much satisfaction; muffing, therefore, provides the ideal sexual sensation.

Muffing is typically used as a way to masturbate as it’s typically discovered by self-exploration, rather than something that is shared between partners.

Bellwether says, ‘It is a delicate and sensitive area, and the act of muffing comes more naturally to some than others. In my own sex life it was something of a revelation: that I could be penetrated in a way that is (mostly) unique to trans women’s bodies is a pretty exciting thing, and makes me feel proud of my body’s differences.'”

@oheyitsannadee via rodeoh

“Sex education can be reformed to focus less on the negative messaging of sex, and more on the positive. There are plenty of reasons to engage in sex or sexual exploration other than reproduction. Sexual stimulation, including masturbation, can help boost mood, relieve stress, and improve self-esteem. Introducing a positive message about sex in sex ed will help improve girls’ self worth, help them better advocate for their needs, and reduce the pressure to have sex before they’re ready.

The problem goes beyond negative body image or girls missing out on orgasms. Without labeling and defining the parts of the vulva, it is not possible to properly teach about disease and pregnancy prevention, sexual assault, or what healthy sex looks like. Girls are entitled to know about their bodies’ abilities. Girls are entitled to respect, pleasure, and healthy sexual relationships. But if we don’t name that — if we make it unspeakable to them — they may not get it.”

@foundinsound via rodeoh

@diormusicnow via rodeoh

“The rise of webcamming and social media means that porn stars are expected to be always accessible and responsive – more than ever, their viewers want a connection with them that goes way beyond seeing them naked. While seeing more genuine pleasure in porn can only be a good thing, this truth-obsessed climate is also creating a whole new set of complex issues for professionals to navigate. […]

The quest for a more genuine connection with the naked people on our computer screens is draining porn performers both financially and emotionally. The unprecedented takeover of porn pirating sites like Pornhub and YouPorn – both owned by private company MindGeek – has made explicit videos freely available, stripping money away from established porn film studios. Porn producers and performers are now obliged to find new ways to make money, such as custom videos, or leave porn altogether.”

@lalaine_adanna via rodeoh

  • SSRIs can be very effective, but they can also kill your sex drive. Part of getting it back is talking to your partner(s), accepting that your orgasms might be more elusive or just not happen, and rethinking your approach to sex, as Rae Nudson writes at the Cut:

“We tried it all, with varying levels of success. It was fun to try new things, but none of them by themselves brought my orgasm back. What did help, more than any vibrator could, was changing my view of what sex should be. When I went into sex without putting pressure on myself to come, it was more enjoyable. And taking the time to focus on me and what felt good — and allowing myself to be okay with taking that time, which was difficult — had better results than just using KY Jelly.”

@refresh_esh via rodeoh

“Moreover, boundaries allow us to fully commit to the things we want to do, and avoid the things we don’t want to do, rather than half-heartedly going along with things we don’t feel comfortable with while biting our tongues. The other party won’t know they’ve crossed a boundary at all if it hasn’t been established. While it’s impossible to entirely control how much you and another person understand each other, setting boundaries helps create clarity, make space for honest communication, and shows mutual commitment to the relationship.”

@wutevzforevz via rodeoh


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Carolyn Yates is the NSFW Consultant, and was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor, for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She recently moved to Los Angeles from Montreal. Find her on twitter.

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9 Comments

    • I tried that Happen for a while, but it was a bit buggy for me. Like it wouldn’t update the my location fast enough and you have to pay after your 10 likes or was it hearts was finished. And only matched 4 people and none of them wanted to reply. Ugh.

      I also tried Coffee Meets bagel, but for some reason the app put me down and Man seeking woman, when my FB page has down trans & genderqueer(and I think had agender down at the time too). If I remember correctly the app forces one to choose a binary side(without respecting your gender ID like at least Tinder tries to do); so, I think it automatically put me under men. Because of that I was giving me straight women match with. I contacted support, but they were no help at all. On the plus side it does let you kind of narrow down what you are looking for; so, I choose prefer meeting Jewish women and it mostly showed me Jewish women(again straight). One even asked me what am I, to which I explained and she went bye. I’d like to think her loss.

      • How do Tinder’s gender settings work? I don’t think I picked anywhere that I was a woman, but I’m pretty sure I checked a box that I wanted to only see women and I definitely see a lot of people who list a gender (and only some profiles have a gender explicitly stated?) that isn’t woman.

  1. I was kind of disappointed that the dating apps article didn’t actually mention any features that would make the apps more trans-friendly. I’m still hoping for the day when we don’t have to choose to show up in searches for men or searches for women (even in apps with nonbinary gender options), when there’s an “I don’t want to see or be seen by cis people” setting, when reporting and account suspension includes a robust review process by people who understand that trans women get reported just for being trans. Someday!

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