NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Solo Poly

Feature image of Freya Mars and Mx Kenzi Eris in Crash Pad Series episode 302. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart

La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart in Crash Pad Series episode 281

At now-updating-again Solo Poly, Aggie writes about how practicing solo polyamory, which involves not living with, marrying, or sharing finances with partners, lets her bring her best self to relationships:

“For me, being solo as well as poly is, among other things, a strategy for bringing my best self to my most emotionally intense or committed relationships. It allows me to be less fearful, judgmental, controlling and resentful toward the people I love.

On a related note: lots of solo poly experience also helps me better handle changes and endings in intimate relationships. This took longer for me to learn — when I first was writing this blog, I was still struggling with that life lesson. However, managing change and endings is a crucial part of bringing my best self to my relationships. Doing this well doesn’t happen by accident.

Now, I am absolutely confident that I will be okay, even if a personal relationship I treasure needs to change or end. Whether a relationship ends on good terms or not: it may hurt a lot emotionally, but it won’t disrupt my housing, healthcare, finances, identity, support network, social connections or future plans.”

Ruby Riots and Zoie Blackheart

Ruby Riots and Zoie Blackheart in Crash Pad Series episode 301

Bussy is beautiful: “‘Bussy’ belongs to the lexicon of queer vocabulary meant to deconstruct and reimagine the possibilities of gender, often with a playful nudge.”

Wash your hands before you fist someone please. Or use gloves and dental dams. Even better: do both.

Hooking up while sick? Disclosing strep is as important as disclosing an STI.

Here’s how to deal with some common sex stains.

What is love?

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d in Crash Pad Series episode 304

Hey Epiphora reviewed the Warm Touch warming automatic lube dispenser, calling it “the dream of slutty snowflake millennials everywhere. It’s absurd and extravagant, AND‌ I‌ LOVE‌ IT.” Welcome to the future. Just make sure to clean it thoroughly.

Here’s how to remove non-consensual videos from Pornhub. It might be a challenge, though: “Pornhub’s current method for removing Girls Do Porn videos and other forms of non-consensual porn not only puts the onus of finding and flagging videos almost entirely on potentially-traumatized victims—those victims can’t even rely on the system to work,” as Motherboard reports.

Don’t forget: Valentine’s Day ideas for when your wife leaves you, reasons you miss your terrible ex, and a love healing spell for someone who’s actually worth it.

At Vice, Samantha Cole writes about how fucking in public reveals who public spaces are really for.

Byron DuBois and Daizy Blaze

Byron DuBois and Daizy Blaze in Crash Pad Series episode 296

Queer adults use dating apps nearly twice as much as straights, says Business Insider:

“A recent survey conducted by Pew Research Center reports that more than half of the LGBTQ-identifying people sampled said they have pursued online dating. However, only 28% of the straight adults in the survey admitted to having used a dating site or app.

The staunch difference between the answers of LGBTQ and straight individuals in the survey provides some insight into the difficulties the queer community faces in dating offline. While straight people may have an easier time meeting others in person, the LGBTQ community faces a set of unique challenges that often impact their ability to do the same.”

Maggie McMuffin and Tender Furiosa

Maggie McMuffin and Tender Furiosa in Crash Pad Series episode 295

Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

Carolyn has written 997 articles for us.

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