NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Reading Sex Books

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Mistress Tom deFun and Blair and bondage

Mistress Tom deFun and Blair in Crash Pad Series episode 311

The best way to get better in bed is to read a sex book:

“It might seem obvious that reading about fucking is an effective way to get better at it, but research has been slowly mounting up to prove it. Dutch academic Jacques van Lankveld has been testing these theories for decades, and a 2012 study found that sexual bibliotherapy helped women with low sexual desire feel more aroused, well-lubricated and orgasmic. […]

This isn’t just because literature tends to be more honest, accurate and instructive than porn — it also has to do with the way that reading affects the brain. Whereas visual porn is often consumed absent-mindedly with a box of tissues and a blinkered desire to cum, reading a book requires time, commitment and dedication, all of which are positively associated with learning and memory recall (and can come in handy when it’s time to put what you learned into action).”

Sal Marquez and Vivi Marie

Sal Marquez and Vivi Marie in Crash Pad Series episode 310

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Adina and Saffron

Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303

Here’s what it’s like when as part of a kink dynamic you let someone else choose what you wear:

“Whether through shopping or coming up with outfit ideas together, fashion can be a profound and experimental tool to bring couples closer. Many queer couples choose each other’s wardrobes to explore their identities together, finding joy in expressing themselves and their personalities to their full potential – having sometimes spent years trying to suppress them. Doing so with the support of another gives them the confidence to try things out they’d perhaps never considered or otherwise dared.

BDSM also comes into play. […] In these consensual relationships, handing over agency when it comes to getting dressed is an opportunity to let go. There is empowerment to be found in defying societal norms and pleasure to be had in the subversion of established power dynamics.”

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1087 articles for us.

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