NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is a Pre-Porn Retina Scan

The feature image of Tasha Black and all of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from fetish site Mondo Fetiche. The inclusion of a visual here is not an assertion of a model’s gender or orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Mistress Datura, Vanniall

Mistress Datura and Vanniall for Mondo Fetiche

What will porn in 2046 look like? If censorship continues on its current path, the answer involves few fetishes, even less kink, A.I. flagging and endless verifications:

“According to The Way Forward Machine, a website that mocks up “the internet of the future” to show how current censorship could escalate, the online porn landscape 25 years from now could be pretty dystopian.

Per their predictions, your porn-viewing experience will go something like this: Instead of sweaty, naked bodies, you’ll be greeted by endless pop-ups that demand a string of verification documents, like driver’s licenses, birth certificates and voting records. Some sites — including social media across the board, not just porn — will even demand scans of your thumbprint and retina to proceed.”

Amazon Maddox, Francisco St. Laurent

Amazon Maddox and Francisco St. Laurent for Mondo Fetiche

Here’s how to keep a shitty text from wrecking your day.

How DARE you leave me after I treated you like trash? I’m the victim here.”

Here’s what it’s like to have your girlfriend findom you.

Here’s what to do if your dog eats a condom or sex toy.

Don’t have sex on a dune.

Uncle Red, Mimosa

Uncle Red and Mimosa for Mondo Fetiche

At the Rumpus, Aiden Foster writes about ghosting, bottom energy, their own catalog of coital disappearances, and more:

“The first time I tried to find love on the internet, no one warned me about the ghosts. They sprung from a coil of black chest hair or a curdled megabit of an ass picture or a ramshackle dollop of character-limited sweetness, scrubbing his or his or his himness into less than absence. Anything could become the catalyst of possible leaving: an improperly placed laughing emoji, a particular pattern of body hair, a predilection for the thirteenth versus the fifteenth Final Fantasy. In a 2019 article, Psychology Today described ghosting as the sudden and inexplicable disappearance of a friend or loved one without notice. The absence of trace distinguishes ghosting as the optimal verb. […] The Psychology Today article explains that repeat ghosting numbs a person, as if the original ghosting generates weaker copies of itself. I don’t agree—each ghosting feels like the first—but I’m charmed by the idea. I imagine a haint quilt, a feeling prophylaxis, woven from the skin of ghosts.”

Valentine Boudreaux, Lain Arbor, River Gray

Valentine Boudreaux, Lain Arbor, and River Gray for Mondo Fetiche

If you have a shitty ex, it can help to remember that they do not live in your head:

“Acknowledging the pain someone left us is not the same as excusing it, nor should we confuse their influence on our lives for the person themselves. In other words, the hurt you’re grappling with, the ways she made you feel small or weak or taken advantage of, is not literally her living in your brain.

She’s not here. You left her behind, for the better. She doesn’t have the power to live in your head. It’s your own thoughts, feelings, and emotions in there, and while that can feel frustrating and painful, it does mean you have the agency and power to deal with them. You don’t need to forget she existed. You need to process your experiences in a way that will help you move on. We are not defined by the people who’ve hurt us. We are defined by our response to the hurt.”


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carolyn

Ryan Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, The Daily Beast, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Ryan has written 1135 articles for us.

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