NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Practicing French Kissing

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Maxine Azula and Mistress Lita Lecherous

Maxine Azula and Mistress Lita Lecherous in Crash Pad episode 284

Here’s how to French kiss:

“You don’t want to overwhelm your partner with a ‘tonsil tongue,’ particularly at the beginning of a French kiss. Open your mouth and gently touch your tongue to your partner’s tongue, moving it delicately. ‘The tongue is a very strong muscle – it should only be served with finesse,’ says Demirjian. ‘Keep it supple and gentle.'”

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d in Crash Pad Series episode 265

Here’s how you can masturbate without using your hands.

It’s cool to sing about women getting themselves off.

But what if you get a panic attack while masturbating? At Allure, Caitlin Wolper writes to not worry that something is wrong with you, that CBT can help, and that finding low-stakes nonsexual ways to connect with your own body can help, too:

“In addition to cognitive therapy, Varma says you should make a practice of connecting with your own body with methods that aren’t sexual. That could entail running a nice bath, relaxing your muscles, or taking a few moments for deep-breathing or meditation while you’re fully clothed, all with the goal of feeling comfortable in your skin. You should also focus on “lowering the stakes,” or putting less pressure on orgasm as a goal.

“Experiencing trust, safety, comfort, and familiarity are necessary to reduce anxiety,” Varma advises. Basically, if this is something that happens to you, the best thing you can do for yourself is to start getting familiar with ways you can experience pleasure in nonsexual ways. Take baby steps back to masturbation, and be gentle with yourself along the way.”

Lindsay Cin and Valentine

Lindsay Cin and Valentine in Crash Pad Series episode 276

Sexuality is a spectrum, duh.

Here’s an introduction to balloon fetishes.

YouTube is still censoring queer sex ed content, not to mention that uses the word “trans” – demonetizing it, flagging it as restricted, hiding it from channels’ subscribers, and more – meaning that creators have to do significantly more work just to reach an already chronically underserved audience, and sending the message that queer sex is obscene:

“And while that might not be something the average YouTube user picks up on as they’re scrolling through videos, censoring or removing the ones that cater to the LGBTQ community does send the subliminal message that discussions or demonstrations of certain types of sex and identities aren’t desirable or important. […] [I]t’s vital that platforms like YouTube do a better job of making accurate, inclusive information about sex and gender available to everyone who needs it.”

Abstinence-only sex ed doesn’t work.

Daisy Ducati and Ella Nova

Daisy Ducati and Ella Nova in Crash Pad Series episode 186

Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

Carolyn has written 947 articles for us.

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