NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Doesn’t Think Sex Will Save The Planet But It Seems Fun To Try

Feature image of Chocolate Chip and Eros LaFemme in Crash Pad Series episode 219. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.

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Lindsay Cin and Valentine

Lindsay Cin and Valentine in Crash Pad Series episode 276

For her 30th birthday, Tanya Gilstrap decided to fuck 30 people in 30 days. Being queer and poly helped; so did an intense Google spreadsheet:

“[D]oing this has helped me reclaim my sexuality and understand that it’s okay to ask for what I want. It’s made me realize my needs are valid, and that I deserve to be cared for and supported as I search for ways to have them met. And while our culture tries its hardest to make that process difficult for some of us, I believe everyone has a right to go after what brings them pleasure — no matter what your gender or sexual orientation is, what your body looks like or what part of the country you live in.

Doing this also made me feel infinitely more confident about myself. Like anyone, there are things about my body I’d like to change, but I was absolutely taken aback by how many of those same things turned people on. The lesson there is this: There’s something, and someone, for everyone.”

Leigh Raven and Nikki Hearts

Leigh Raven and Nikki Hearts in Crash Pad Series episode 217

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Scout and Lew Pine

Scout and Lew Pine in Crash Pad Series episode 227

“[E]cosexuality is seductive: it incentivises people to change their relationship with nature by exploring their sexuality,” writes Megan Wallace at Paper on ecosexuality and saving the planet:

“[E]cosexual practices tend to involve a combination of art, activism and, as you might have gathered, sex. In practical terms, this might sometimes translate to nudity outdoors, but it’s more specifically about consciously taking pleasure in the beauty of plants, waterfalls, and Mother Nature’s other treasures.

The movement has certainly grown legs in the sex industry, with ‘ecosexual’ emerging as a porn category, and a boom in vegan sex toys, lube, and condoms. Yet, in our wider sex-negative culture, ecosexuality has not had such a positive reception. A quick google of this topic yields US conservatives ridiculing terms like ‘grassilingus,’ and a lot of right-wing sceptics puzzling over the logistics of shagging trees. Cutting through this online scepticism, however, could ecosexuality work as a way to mobilise people in the fight against climate change?”

Valentine and Calico

Valentine and Calico in Crash Pad episode 232

Presenting as non-binary can change your dating life, writes Travis Alabanza:

“It feels like some people’s relationship to gender non-conforming femininity is one of both desire and distance. We are wanted in the clubs, on high podiums, in high heels, in all our fabulousness to entertain, perform, be fierce, death drop, be a sister. I find, though, that we are rarely considered romantic or sexual prospects—in our normality, in our boredom, in our softness, in our mundanity, in daylight, hand in hand.

When you declare you are outside of the binary, it can leave you feeling like you are also outside of sexual plausibility.”

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d

Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d in Crash Pad Series episode 265

Carolyn Yates was formerly the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com. Her writing has appeared in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. She lives in Los Angeles by way of Montreal and Toronto. Find her on twitter or instagram.

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7 Comments

  1. omg i knew Ali (wild wolf leatherworks) when i was in highschool and got a harness from them a while ago, it’s so cool to see their beautiful work cropping up all over the place 🙂

  2. Not dating but since dressing how I want to (AFAB, non binary, masc of centre dressing in generally preppy boy clothes) I’ve found the quality of conversation with the general public’s gone up. Bigots and conservatives don’t want to talk to me which leaves me in conversations with lefties, arty types, other lgbt people etc instead.

    I know that’s not everyone’s experience (people get harassment, I’ve only done this for one time and I’ve already heard one homophobic slur) and it’s site specific, probably privileged perspective but I just want people know there’s hope out there. Quality not quantity.

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